Should I be concerned that a friend put a named photo of my DC on her Facebook page?

[mm22bys]

Hi,

A friend (without children) sent me a message through Facebook - it was a link to her "favourite photos", one of which was a photo of my DS1, who she named in full.

I asked her (nicely) to re-tag the photo so his name's not in full anymore.

AIBU, or just paranoid (I don't mind the photo being on there, just his name...)

[chopster]

I wouldn't want a full name. yanbu.

[chopster]

to be honest I wouldn't really want friends posting pics of my dkids about neither.

[SandCastspells]

I wouldn't be pleased if anyone put a pic of MY dd on their facebook/myspace etc with out getting my permission.

I'd be annoyed that theat had used her full name too!

[SandCastspells]

oh & YANBU!

Never done that before!

[MrsJohnCusack]

oh I wouldn't dream of posting a picture of anybody's child on the web without their permission

and I would check that they've set the privacy settings so that only friends can see it as well even if you're happy to let the picture stay up there

[LittleLupin]

YANBU, I'd be cross.

My DS is on mine, but not with his name.

[MamaGryffindor]

same as Mrs JC

[Leati]

I have my kids posted with nicknames.

[ladylush]

I just got an email from a friend who lives overseas telling me she has put me on facebook. I need to ask her not to put any pics of my son on it. I won't even put any pics of him on here, let alone facebook. YANBU

[mollysmummy77]

I wouldn't want someone else posting pictures of my lo on their page, named or otherwise, without asking first. I don't think it's unreasonable for you to ask for the name to be changed.

[quint]

picture not so bad - but name especially full name a big huge no no

[peanutbear]

She should have asked your permission to be polite if nothing else YANBU

my ex dh has pics of my son all over my space with his name

He thinks I am being unreasonable for not liking it

[quint]

can you not report something when you find it offensive - I would certainky find it offensive if my DD's faces were plastered over the web with their names

[Leati]

My kids are on my Myspace account but I put nicknames for them. I also don't have the city I live in or my real name on the sight. When Friends and family look they already know that information and nobody else needs, too.

I also had to set my comments section so that noone could add comments that were not preapproved because sometimes other people would mention thier names. This pretty much covers all the bases.

[pyjamaqueen]

YANBU - If she DID have her own children, she would probably realise that most mums would not want their children named on the internet or even the photos in there at all. They aren't her children, are they, so can't see why she thinks they should be on her page anyway.

[Leati]

I imagine because she doesn't have her own children, she just does not better. In someways it a complement to your children, that she cares so much for them that she would want to include them in her facebook. I think asking nicely to re-tag the photos is perfect. Or even better yet if you have another nick name you call him by use that. Like mine are c-man, babygirl, pooby, kyky.

[Scoobyc]

Def not unreasonable.
My friend asked before she put any photos of my family on Facebook and she has no children. Friend should have thought about it more.

[Leati]

Whoops,...does not know better is what I meant.

I think you guys are coming down to hard on the poor girl. I am sure she is just naive to the dangers and will change the tag.

[duchesse]

She prob doesn't appreciate the importance of what she's done. I really do not think you are being unreasonable at all. Ask her to change his name or give him a nickname.

I have had a blog for four years now; my children's blog names are pseudonyms of their nicknames, and any of their friends and nephews or nieces who pop up also get nicknames. The only trouble I have is keeping track of all the nicknames for the next reference months down the line, but it is feasible.

[frapachino]

I have my mobile no. on my facebook page and pics of my son whose name is easy to workout from mine. I don't worry about it at all. I think it's really sad how paranoid in general society is becoming, but I do appreciate your concerns and I would never put a friends child full name on the page so no you are not being unreasonable.

[mm22bys]

Thanks for your responses. I am sure she didn't think it through. She is a great friend and would never do anything intentionally to hurt anyone.

It is actually a great photo (if I may so myself), and it's one she took, so I wouldn't ask her to remove it (and as a pp said, yes I am proud that she saw fit to put it on her page!).

I am not going to say anything more to her about it, it's only a minor thing and not worth any way shape or form "hurting" our friendship over..she'll get the message just from my request to change his name.

Thx,

[mezzer]

I suppose I'm naive but why is it a problem? I know that a lot of people don't like to have real names on the web but are there really any true risks?

[Pennies]

mezzer I won't put any named photos of me or my family on the net because we have a unique surname so if anyone for whatever reason was trying to find us they'd have no problem with it. If my name was Joe Smith I wouldn't be so fussed, so not sure about others' reasons.

[Pennies]

What exactly is the point of facebook anyway?

[1Troll]

mezzer, possibly the risks percentage wise are minimal but there are strange people out there who will take even a normal innocent photo and can with technology adapt them to turn them into something more sinister. I would rather that not be my child.