DH does work long hours, I work but part time hours and look after our dd when not working. Every day he gets in from work which is usually 6:30, he walks into the lounge where me and DD are and doesn't say hello to me but just talks in baby voice to DD. I don't even get eye contact. I say hiya and I'll get an 'alright babe' if I'm lucky, but if he does say alright he won't look at me and say it, there's just no contact or communication towards me. I totally get he wants to see dd before she goes to bed, but is it too much to expect him to acknowledge me when he gets home? I look forward to him coming home on my days off and every time he does I wonder why I looked forward to it.
He does this in the morning too before he goes to work, on the days he goes in late which is 2 days a week. Well have half an hour in bed with dd who is wide awake and singing, chatting to us both. If I ask him a question such as 'are you going to the gym tonight?' He will totally ignore me and instead start talking to dd in this baby ga ga voice. I'll ask him again and he'll answer but it's a delayed response, never looks up and actually looks at me when he's talking. This is just ONE example and it happens all the time. I'm constantly repeating myself and asking stuff twice three times, or I give up and just get ignored.
We had a massive argument last night because he did the same yesterday morning and night. We wake up he brings dd in bed with us, he's talking to her playing etc which is lovely as I know he doesn't see as much of her as I do. But I ask him a question, are you working late tonight? Totally ignored. So I asked him again while he wasn't talking or playing, he paused for a few seconds and then proceeded to sing wind the bobbin up to our dd. I'm getting so fucking sick of it I really am.
Last night the same thing happened I said hoe I was looking forward to a day off together in march and he ignored me, I said 'babe I said I'm looking forward to that day off' and he ignored me again! I just flipped, all he says is how he's just tired and I don't understand how hard he works and he said 'it's my time with her, I never see her too wouldn't understand! About our dd. He shouts and is awful about it. He doesn't care that he regularly blanks me, he literally doesn't care or see is rude. He thinks he is entitled to do that.
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Justcurious000 · 24/01/2017 16:22
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