AIBU asking for night time /morning help being stay at home mum?

[Friendinneed2016]

We have 3 DC. Whist all of them were young I done 100% of the night time waking and feeds. None slept through before 2 years of age. Last child still wakes up multiple times per night which I deal with. I bf but. It theough the night, only am and bedtime. He wakes up wanting water or keep asking can he get up for the day! If he hasn't had a nap then he probably wakes up twice between bedtime and 3:30 and then loads of times between then and morning, approx 15 times. Says he's hungry usually or ends up drinking loads.

I am fed up of not having full nights sleep for years no lie in for 4/5 months. Ds not napped for 5 days now so 5 terrible nights sleep and 4/5 months of being up between 5 and half 6 every day plus a few night wakings.

Dh said last week he'd like to give me a night off and let me sleep elsewhere however this has never happened due to multiple excuses. This morning at 6 I asked him to take over and give me a lie in as I'm knackered and just have had my head bitten off and made to feel guilty. I feel so so tired even though I don't work and he does shifts. Am I being unreasonable and just stop moaning and get on with it (considering he does shifts - no night though) or am I entitled to some help?

[Friendinneed2016]

Sorry to avaid drip feeding he does get up without our eldest who wakes up once half the week (the other half she sleep she through) although he gets up and sleeps in her room when this happens.

[Loulou0]

That sounds bloody exhausting! My husband and I go 50/50 on the night wake ups. Could you suggest that to him?
One night it's your turn, the next is his?

[Dozer]

Very unfair, unless he has a job involving danger or brain surgery, he is not parenting at night or morning and should do so! And not just for the occasional one.

[Dozer]

On the youngest DC's sleep thing, I found giving much water at night made matters worse.

[Friendinneed2016]

Dozed he mouth breathes at night and ends up with a dry mouth. Maybe I could get a different cup with low flow. It's a nightmare! Wish he'd stop waking!

[handsfree]

How old is your youngest? Mine is 2 and he has a non spill beaker of water in his cot overnight and often wakes up, has a drink and goes back to sleep.

[pklme]

YANBU to want help. you have an important job too, keeping young children safe.
how about going to sleep on someone else's spare bed for a planned night every week? plan it so it is minimally disruptive for him- he can help pick the night, if he wants.

and sort out the little one's sleep habits, it's not sustainable! a leak proof beaker? a dummy? I had one like this, I slept with my hand in his cot next to my bed, holding his dummy in. wrecked my shoulder.

[Dozer]

Two nights, minimum, should really be more given OP's exhaustion.

[TheSparrowhawk]

So is it his opinion that it's fine for you to get practically no sleep while he gets plenty? You shouldn't be asking for 'help' you should be expecting him to do his fair share of parenting his children!

[2410ang]

If littlest one is waking complaining of being hungry have you tried giving a snack before bed? All of ours have had cereal at bedtime since being around 2, usually weetabix with warm milk. Found this really stopped them waking up so much. May genuinely be hungry!