My family have always done lots of Christmas presents - usually one big one, a few medium ones and lots of little ones. A lot of thought and effort goes into the gifts but they will also ask what the recipient would like and get that. My ILs do things differently - they just buy the one thing you have asked them to get. Me and DH do things more like my family and buy a number of presents for each person.
Now that we have children, the difference when it comes to gift giving is more obvious. While we are trying to teach our daughter that Christmas isn't just about presents (she's not yet 3 but we're trying!) I think my DH feels embarrassed as the difference is so noticeable. Two years ago he wanted my family to hide all but one present when his family were there and then to give the others after his family left. Last year we saw them on separate occasions so it was fine but this year, although they won't see each other, DD is more in to the whole thing and I'm worried she'll notice the difference and say something (in the tactless way that toddlers do).
The only way that I can see of avoiding any kind of embarrassment is to ask my family to do the same as my ILs and just buy one gift, but I know they love giving gifts and spending the time choosing things that people will really love. I don't want anyone to have their feelings hurt or feel awkward about anything. DH had made comments about my family going over the top but I don't know if I should say something directly to them. What would you do?
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To not tell my family to buy less Christmas presents?
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onedayimightforget · 09/12/2016 19:44
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