(Lightheartedish) 3 things about myself

[80schild]

I have a really bad habit. I constantly put myself down. Up until few years ago, I had major self confidence issues which are now, at least partially resolved but there is still this thing that I do where I put myself down all the time. Recently, one friend who I know is quite fond of me, banned me from saying anything negative about myself and then yesterday someone else asked me why I talk so badly about myself. So, as an exercise, I am trying to think of 3 things I am good at. By the end of the day I had only come up with 2:

Cooking
Music

When I asked DH for his opinion, he said not so much cooking but I am good at "entertaining ". It hasn't made me feel good that this is the best DH could do.

[Champagneformyrealfriends]

Entertaining is a lovely one-it means you're kind, welcoming, generous etc.

[80schild]

So my question is, AIBU that there are possibly only two good things about me?

[Graphista]

Kick dh for starters!

You can add good taste in decades from a fellow 80's person (though you may be a decade younger than me).

[80schild]

Okay champagne - maybe I am looking at it the wrong way.

[80schild]

Oh I do love the 80's music. So many different styles evolving at the same time.

[CondensedMilkSarnies]

Do you have children ?

[80schild]

Yes, I have two.

[nancy75]

I bet you are a good mum
If you are good at entertaining you must be good at conversation ( not an easy skill)
You must be good at making friends ( you have mentioned friends in your op)

[LiviaDrusillaAugusta]

You are incredibly articulate - that's a positive thing!

[CondensedMilkSarnies]

Well then, you can add to your list

Good mum - you are raising two children

Amazing body - it carried two babies

Loving person - I take it you love your kids and DH

Decent cook - all of the above are still alive

[80schild]

I'm alright but I am a bit stroppy with them at times. Actually, you are right about the conversation - I am good with people at a superficial level. I struggle to get beyond that a bit though (this is because of my own issues).

[defineme]

They are enormously broad categories of things to be good at, i would break them down into lots of smaller things eg good at cooking curry, good at making people feel comfortable, good at listening to people (such an underated skill), good at playing the piano etc
You made 2 whole human beings...that's pretty impressive!

[nancy75]

You are being negative again, stop it! being good at conversation is a great skill to have and not everyone can do it, and everyone gets stroppy with their kids!!

[80schild]

Okay this has worked. I think this was a good thing to do. Does anyone else need a confidence boost?

[80schild]

Thank you Nancy. I promise I am never going to do it again.

[PortiaFinis]

Are you good at finding things? I suddenly realised today that I'm usually bloody amazing at finding things - going so far as to say it's almost a super power. That felt great to realise that and say it out loud to the squabbling (and unimpressed) progeny.

I think being good at entertaining is a brilliant skill - not many people can make people feel instantly at ease as guests - it usually means tact, empathy and warmth - all great things.

I'm sure there are loads of things you're brilliant at but you take your brilliance for granted.

[CondensedMilkSarnies]

I'm not actually really good at anything myself. I can only just about knit a scarf, reasonable cook , can't crochet , can't play an instrument , can't sing etc.

However , after a really ,really ,really shit few months which have made me seriously grateful to be alive, I have decided that:

Despite some stonking parenting mistakes I am an awesome mum, a very good friend and am extremely brave.

Keep thinking Op I bet you have loads of things you are good at

[nancy75]

I'm impressed by knitting, I tried it once and produced a thing that looked like a holey fishing net!