ABIU to be mad at boyfriend for accepting this job

[Baybay16]

Hi
I have had an absolute shit say full of horrible people ( bus driver shouted and gave me the finger to give an idea ) so not sure if am just in a horrible mood

I got a new job in June full time my boyfriend was scraping full time hours with two jobs but always had a Tuesday off. I made sure I always had Tuesdays off. It's me and another girl on the make up counter she started on thursday she told me she could work a Wednesday and Friday. I said I am so sorry but is there anyway you can change the Friday to a Tuesday? She shuffled things around ( I think it was uni stuff ) and said she could so great!

I got a text from boyfriend today "been offered a full time job Monday to Friday , took it." I was happy at first but now mad that I made the girl change her days for my Tuesday. There's no way I can get a saturday Sunday off so we will never have a day off together .
I am frustrated that I am always so flexible and considering to him but seems he couldn't actually care less. He knew the hassle I went to to get a Tuesday off for him and I just feel annoyed that I will see him after 5.30 and that's all ( some nights I work til 9 too! )
AIBU

He said I just want him to feel shit about it and he wants me to change my days ( again .. and I can't!)

[greenfolder]

Hes got a full time job and that is your reaction? Poor boyfriend

[Crunchymum]

You sound a bit needy OP.

Do you live together?

[rumpelstiltskin43]

How old are you? 12?

[PossumInAPearTree]

Most full time jobs are Monday to Friday. Be happy he got a job.

[TheCakes]

Most full time jobs are Monday to Friday. It's daytime hours. What's wrong with evenings?
I'd be glad he had a full time job and a but of security.

[Baybay16]

The job is in his work he is at now .. it's only 3 more hours a week which just doesn't feel worth it for how little we will see each other

[PossumInAPearTree]

Do you work every weekend?

[Baybay16]

Yes every weekend x he does too normally

[ChuckGravestones]

You wanted him to turn a job down because you can't get the right day off?

Why?

[SVJAA]

DP works 60 + hours per week minimum, we find time to spend together. I think your reaction is pretty nasty, you should have congratulated him!

[Osolea]

It was always going to be difficult for him to get a job with regular Tuesdays off, you can't expect him not to accept a standard Monday to Friday job when he needs to find work.

It's understandable you're disappointed that you won't get much time together, but try not to have a go at him for doing a completely reasonable thing because you're upset.

[bloodyteenagers]

Work patterns change. Even if he remained doing two part time jobs, at any point he could have had a shift change.

[SheSparkles]

Really?

[HermioneJeanGranger]

I work five days in seven, DP works Mon-Fri. We rarely get weekends together. It sucks sometimes but we get every evening together which is more than lots of couples.

It also means we get plenty of time to ourselves which I think helps a lot.

YABU to be mad at him. If you were offered a Mon-Fri 9-5 job, wouldn't you take it?!

[alltouchedout]

When I was pregnant with ds3 a bus driver almost ran me over then shouted at me for it. I stood in front of his bus, called him a cunt and offered him out. He was shocked.

OP I think you've just had a shitty day. See if you can change your days and if not just shrug and plan some nice stuff to do in your free days :)

[ShowMePotatoSalad]

How many full time jobs do you think you can swap a weekday for a weekend day? Is that what you were hoping he could do?

Do you see him during the evenings?

YABVU. 

[CharliePurple]

Op, you might not think it is worth it but he does. Most people have to juggle their work and home life, you just have to get used to it and deal with it in a mature way.

[Bluntness100]

Wow, yes, that's highly unreasonable, I guess he's looking to better himself and make his prospects better and a full time job should be congratulated. Very strange to think he should decline it so he could be off on a Tuesday with you and yes. Very needy. Sorry.

[FishSauce555]

Yabvu I'm afraid!

Maybe you could look for a more compatible job?

[Baybay16]

He could have just stuck which his jobs ( in the same super market ) he works 16 hours there and 16 hours at a shopping centre
I work til 9pm a lot of evenings so no won't see him then much

This isn't a permanent job just until we go back to Uni next year

[BratFarrarsPony]

I think you should be happy about his new job opportunity.
You see him every evening dont you?
I suppose it would be nice to have a day off together, but that is life really.

Why did the bus driver stick his finger up and shout then? not for no reason I am sure!

[Baybay16]

We said we would enjoy our year off Uni since we wouldnt be working full time and studying we would be able to spend some time together it just feels like it's defeating the point

[Baybay16]

I work til 9pm most evenings get home at 9.45 quick something to eat and then bed so no I won't see him evenings.

[FairyDogMother11]

My job involves switching from days to nights and back again. It varies from week to week and I never have a set day off. My partner works 12hr shifts and again, has no set routine. We're adults and we have bills to pay. We live together and sometimes don't see each other awake in four or five days. Unfortunately that is life, it's not ideal but we are always grateful for the time we do get together. We make an effort to book our holidays at the same time but apart from that, if we didn't do what we do our mortgage just wouldn't get paid.

[Bluntness100]

Are you in some way worried or insecure about your relationship? Is there a back story here that we aren't aware of?