I have been married for almost 2 years, and with my DH for 8 years. Talk over the past year has naturally turned to children and we have just bought our first place together.
DH is really keen to try for a baby now - I'm not quite there yet, but it would really help me if he could engage in the financial repercussions and other responsibilities involved - I try and bring it up regularly, but he just dismisses these things and says he'll 'take care of it all'. This is all very well - at the moment we earn exactly the same amount, but either of us taking time off to care for a child would have a significant financial impact. I've drawn up various budgets to try and plan for the future - but he is so laissez faire about it & this frightens me a lot.
It isn't just this though - I'm sure many people find this, but I take the lion's share of the household chores, washing, cleaning, house admin etc. (we both work equal hours) - and I'm afraid I'll be left looking after two people.
So whilst he says ' he'll take care of it all' - he has done nothing to prove that he would. What would you do in my situation? I've tried talking to him & he says he'll get better, but never does. I don't doubt he'd be a wonderful Dad, so would you just jump in and go for it and trust it would be ok? Or would you insist they help out more and prove themselves before you bring a baby into the equation?
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AIBU to expect him to man up before we try to have a baby?
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SWtoSEGirl · 05/12/2016 12:25
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