Bit of a weird one, I'd just like some opinions really. The back story: my brother has Aspergers and bi-polar. He's 25 but has the emotional maturity of a teenager. He hasn't managed to hold down a job and is all in all a complicated and often frustrating individual. But, he's my brother and I love him warts and all. He's recently (about 6 months or so) begun a relationship with a girl of the same age. She has two children from previous relationships. They have been friends for a long time and I met her when she was at school 10 years ago and I was training to be a teacher. She always seemed a nice kid but I didn't know her well. My brother met her when they were 16 or so i think. From what my db says, I'm not sure that they have the healthiest of relationships as they both have mental health issues but I'm certain my brother loves her.
Now to the AIBU: my parents have met my brothers girlfriend twice. They are happy that my brother is happy - no issues at all. I've not met her or her kids but, I feel that as my brother considers them - the girlfriend and her kids- family, then they are family. I've bought them all little gifts for Christmas. My dh and several other people think AIB well, weird rather than unreasonable. I've had a few comments about how dd's girlfriend will find it strange one recieve gifts from people she doesn't know. In all honesty, I'm just trying to be nice and welcoming and repay the kindness my brother has always shown to my dd. He loves his girlfriends kids and it is really sweet to listen to him talk about them. I also feel awkward with the idea that I would send my brother home with a present and nothing for the people he considers his family. (They are spending Christmas lunch apart but the morning and evening together and I will see him at lunch.) I've just wrapped the presents and then got stuck on what to write on the labels so now I'm second guessing myself. Am I being weird? Should I have waited until we had been introduced? I've only bought small tokens so nothing massively expensive. My mum is of the same opinion as me and has bought them all presents too, but she has been introduced so can put her name on the label without them going 'who?!'. Over to you oh wise mnetters!
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Whatsername17 · 04/12/2016 20:31
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