A few years ago, pretty much out of the blue, I was sacked from a job I'd been in for 4 years. When I started, I thought I'd be there for years, maybe till retirement. The pay was crap & I was bored, but the people were nice & the hours were good. The director who was there when I started was great and told me that when x retired she would like me to do x's job. Great! I could do that!
Then the director decided to retire before x. The new director was a real type A, & other people started leaving. The new director got in other type A's and they began to bully me. Nevertheless, I didn't realize they intended to fire me. By the time I left the staff (who had all been women 40+, bar two in their 30's, had been replaced by all recent graduates, all female bar one. New director is in her 40's, but seems to sort of feed off the energy of younger women).
When I was sacked the director did it with a board member & yesterday the board member made a point of coming up to me in a shop and saying "Hi!! How are you?!! It's been so long since I've seen you!"
Being sociliased to be polite (& not recognizing her for a minute, but she'd called me by name so must know me), I said "oh hello, how are you?" Then I guess my face darkended as I recognized her and she said "oh good" & scuttled off.
I'm making loads more now & have met lovely people at a subsequent job, so it turned out okay in the end in many ways. But it hit my confidence hard & I have not really gotten that back. I sort of resent being approached like that, as if we were old mates. I feel like a respectful distance is better, if possible, after you sack someone who's had no performance problems (but who does not fit the profile the new director wants).
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lizzieoak · 04/12/2016 17:36
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