Should I call them out on it?

(6 Posts)
DoublyTroubly Sun 27-Nov-16 18:37:33

I'm one of 4 sisters all very close in age (literally 3 years between the oldest and youngest as it includes a set of twins). I've always been the odd one out and know that they've made plans without me but it's rarely as blatent as it was tonight

Basically, I've gone to my mums for Sunday dinner and 2 of my sisters were there. While we were there the 3rd sister phoned sister number 1 and I heard them making plans for Friday night. Sister 1 then said to sister 2 (right in front of me) are you still on for Friday? I just ran out to the toilet

I understand if they want to make plans without me but to openly discuss them in front of me has really upset me. I should mention that I am the only one with kids so the only one with childcare issues but this can be overcome

Am I being unreasonable to point out how much they have upset me? We've got a few things as a family planned over Xmas so it could get awkward

Arfarfanarf Sun 27-Nov-16 18:42:58

Is it just because they assume childcare will be a problem?
Why not say sounds like fun, id love to come too.
Unless you think there's something else going on?

BeautyQueenFromMars Sun 27-Nov-16 18:54:38

I have similar family dynamics. Definitely ask them why you're not invited. Tell them it's hurtful.

IAmNotACat Sun 27-Nov-16 19:03:52

Do you enjoy the same things as they do? Do they have a lot in common that you don't share with them?

I don't see a problem with telling them it hurts you when they exclude you and talk about it in front of you, which is rude, but I think maybe you'd be happier if you forgot about doing things with them and focus on your friends and other family instead. You don't really want to be invited just because they feel bad do you?

slenderisthenight Sun 27-Nov-16 19:46:42

I think perhaps you should say something. But not confrontationally.

JenLindleyShitMom Sun 27-Nov-16 19:51:20

Do you ever suggest meeting up or invite them out with you?

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