I'd really appreciate opinions on this as it's tearing me apart - literally! lol
To keep it as short as I can:
I'm a single parent with one son who I love the bones of. We're very close as since he was a baby it's only been me and him (with lots of input from parents who helped out a lot and which I'm so grateful for - he's extremely close to my parents).
So my dilemma is I've been with my partner for over 3 years now. I love him to bits and he loves me to bits. Problem is he lives in a different country He want's me to emigrate, get married and be together 'properly'. He's begged me lots of times to go across but I've always said no because I couldn't leave my family - i.e my son and parents.
My son is in his mid 20's now, good job, long term GF who he is buying a house with next year and as settled as someone his age can be.
But he's dead against me moving abroad and I'm torn. His argument is that he still lives at home so why not wait a couple of years and then go over - my partners argument is I'm tired of waiting and want to be with you more than a few weeks here and there. I've an ultimatum - either I put 'us' first or as much as he doesn't want it to - we're over.
Added to that I have fantastic job with a good pension so should I stay in UK? My partner is a businessman who earns 20x what I do so the possibility of him coming to UK is zero. There is no way that he'd be able to earn what he does there.
Oh heck I'm rambling now - so much for keeping it short lol - would really appreciate opinions
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ellamoromou · 25/11/2016 23:15
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