To be worried I might be pregnant because I have pelvic pain?

[3boys3dogshelp]

3dc already, have suffered with PGP/SPD with all three pregnancies.
The last 2 weeks I have been nauseous on and off but there have been quite a few tummy bugs going around the dc's school and nursery so I thought nothing of it.
Today my pelvis has been painful exactly like when I was pregnant. I haven't had this pain with anything else, is there anything else which causes PGP?
DH has had a vasectomy and 2 clear samples, but I can't help but worry. We really couldn't cope with another DC 😞.

[Blink1982]

I still get pgp when the weather turns cold. IT'S weird

[3boys3dogshelp]

That makes me feel a bit better, I can't really remember having it last Winter but maybe I've forgotten. I have been out in the cold a lot today.

[RoseGoldHippie]

OP I don't know where you live but where I am it has been exceptionally cold today!

[bibbitybobbityyhat]

I'm sorry that you have been feeling unwell and that you are worried. Why did you choose aibu rather than one of the health topics?

[3boys3dogshelp]

Bibbity - 2 reasons - I could find it!

• I wanted you to all tell me I was being unreasonable and to stop being ridiculous so I could stop worrying about it.
  

I feel fine today, just have an achey pelvis.

[3boys3dogshelp]

Rose gold - it's bloody freezing here. I took ds3 to the park about 12 hours ago and I still can't feel my feet.

[TheFairyCaravan]

Is your period due? It's very common for PGP to flare up then.

I've had severe SPD for over 20 years and although I'm in constant pain, I do get random flare ups, so it might just be one of those things.

[3boys3dogshelp]

No, due last week and I did bleed last week but much much less than usual and only for 2 days. Usually have v heavy periods for 6/7 days.
Thanks for replying though. I'm feeling reassured that it's not completely unheard of to have PGP pain and not be pregnant.

[3boys3dogshelp]

Turns out ianbu - just got a faint positive test.

[crazyoldc4tlady]

Oh, this must be quiete a shock giving your DH's vasectomy. Happened to a friend of mine as well.

But you have options, OP.

Hope you are ok.

[IAmALionTamer]

Oh OP that must be a real shock
I hope you are OK xxx

[ragz134]

Oh that must be a huge shock! So sorry. Have you told your DH yet? I know mine would freak and assume I'd been cheating or something! (Not suggesting you have, just my DH would think that).
I fell pregnant earlier this year while on the pill, already have 3 DCs and lost last pregnancy at 23 weeks so no way did o want to go through that again. I had a termination through BPAS and it was a fairly stress-free process to be honest, so if you do consider that I am happy to share my experience. Feel free to PM me x

[3boys3dogshelp]

It was huge shock. DH just got home and is being lovely. I know he wouldn't think I'd been cheating but he just keeps saying that the test is wrong and I have nothing to worry about.
I'm all for women having free choice but I'm struggling with the thought of termination. My best friend is really struggling with infertility. How can I terminate this pregnancy when I'm watching her struggle and sympathising with her? Feel like a hypocrite.

[Bringmewineandcake]

She won't feel any better that you got pregnant in spite of a vasectomy!
It must be a big shock but this has to be your decision on what's right for you.

[PupPupBoogie]

Could the faint test be an evaps?

[Ohyesiam]

What's an evaps?

[PupPupBoogie]

Evap. Sorry autocorrect!

[SandunesAndRainclouds]

I think if I was in your situation I'd want a clear positive from a FMU before I believed it. You must be so shocked

[capercaillie]

You must be shocked - I've just been through similar and was shocked to get a BFP as I had no symptoms - unlike other pregnancies. You have to go with what feels right for you at this point

[3boys3dogshelp]

DH thinks it's an evap but it appeared immediately so I don't think it is. I do think I need to retest in a few days before I go into panic mode. I feel pregnant though, that's why I tested.
The more I think about it the more I know there is no choice to be made. We are only just getting back on an even keel after ds3 who is 3 now. We have one ds being investigated for ASD and 2 more who I have my suspicions about! Ds3 is beautiful and I adore him, but he nearly broke me and our marriage. I just can't put us all through that again.
It doesn't make me feel good about it though...

[Allthewaves]

Massive hugs. Iv 3dc too. One asd, one adhd and a 3 yr old. Same for me with 3rd ds - he broke me and our marriage is still fragile and he's 3 yrs old. I never thought I'd have a termination but now I know for absolute certainty we really couldn't cope with a 4th dc.

[3boys3dogshelp]

Thanks Allthewaves, so glad someone knows how I'm feeling.

[3boys3dogshelp]

I've done 3 tests today and they're all negative. I think (hope) it's more likely to be a faulty test than a failed vasectomy. Feeling pretty relieved today after a very sleepless night.

[JennyHolzersGhost]

Fingers crossed for you OP

[3boys3dogshelp]

Thanks