To be worried I might be pregnant because I have pelvic pain?

(33 Posts)
3boys3dogshelp Thu 24-Nov-16 23:49:47

3dc already, have suffered with PGP/SPD with all three pregnancies.
The last 2 weeks I have been nauseous on and off but there have been quite a few tummy bugs going around the dc's school and nursery so I thought nothing of it.
Today my pelvis has been painful exactly like when I was pregnant. I haven't had this pain with anything else, is there anything else which causes PGP?
DH has had a vasectomy and 2 clear samples, but I can't help but worry. We really couldn't cope with another DC 😞.

Blink1982 Fri 25-Nov-16 00:09:02

I still get pgp when the weather turns cold. IT'S weird

3boys3dogshelp Fri 25-Nov-16 00:14:44

That makes me feel a bit better, I can't really remember having it last Winter but maybe I've forgotten. I have been out in the cold a lot today.

RoseGoldHippie Fri 25-Nov-16 00:18:18

OP I don't know where you live but where I am it has been exceptionally cold today!

bibbitybobbityyhat Fri 25-Nov-16 00:23:35

I'm sorry that you have been feeling unwell and that you are worried. Why did you choose aibu rather than one of the health topics?

3boys3dogshelp Fri 25-Nov-16 00:28:31

Bibbity - 2 reasons - I could find it!
- I wanted you to all tell me I was being unreasonable and to stop being ridiculous so I could stop worrying about it.
I feel fine today, just have an achey pelvis.

3boys3dogshelp Fri 25-Nov-16 00:30:51

Rose gold - it's bloody freezing here. I took ds3 to the park about 12 hours ago and I still can't feel my feet.

TheFairyCaravan Fri 25-Nov-16 00:37:07

Is your period due? It's very common for PGP to flare up then.

I've had severe SPD for over 20 years and although I'm in constant pain, I do get random flare ups, so it might just be one of those things.

3boys3dogshelp Fri 25-Nov-16 00:48:20

No, due last week and I did bleed last week but much much less than usual and only for 2 days. Usually have v heavy periods for 6/7 days.
Thanks for replying though. I'm feeling reassured that it's not completely unheard of to have PGP pain and not be pregnant.

3boys3dogshelp Fri 25-Nov-16 18:42:42

Turns out ianbu - just got a faint positive test.

crazyoldc4tlady Fri 25-Nov-16 18:47:31

Oh, this must be quiete a shock giving your DH's vasectomy. Happened to a friend of mine as well.

But you have options, OP.

Hope you are ok.

IAmALionTamer Fri 25-Nov-16 18:54:32

Oh OP that must be a real shock brew
I hope you are OK xxx

ragz134 Fri 25-Nov-16 19:03:36

Oh that must be a huge shock! So sorry. Have you told your DH yet? I know mine would freak and assume I'd been cheating or something! (Not suggesting you have, just my DH would think that).
I fell pregnant earlier this year while on the pill, already have 3 DCs and lost last pregnancy at 23 weeks so no way did o want to go through that again. I had a termination through BPAS and it was a fairly stress-free process to be honest, so if you do consider that I am happy to share my experience. Feel free to PM me x

3boys3dogshelp Fri 25-Nov-16 19:31:44

It was huge shock. DH just got home and is being lovely. I know he wouldn't think I'd been cheating but he just keeps saying that the test is wrong and I have nothing to worry about.
I'm all for women having free choice but I'm struggling with the thought of termination. My best friend is really struggling with infertility. How can I terminate this pregnancy when I'm watching her struggle and sympathising with her? Feel like a hypocrite.

Bringmewineandcake Fri 25-Nov-16 19:59:20

She won't feel any better that you got pregnant in spite of a vasectomy! flowers
It must be a big shock but this has to be your decision on what's right for you.

PupPupBoogie Fri 25-Nov-16 20:23:04

Could the faint test be an evaps?

Ohyesiam Fri 25-Nov-16 20:28:53

What's an evaps?

PupPupBoogie Fri 25-Nov-16 20:29:36

Evap. Sorry autocorrect!

SandunesAndRainclouds Fri 25-Nov-16 20:30:52

I think if I was in your situation I'd want a clear positive from a FMU before I believed it. You must be so shocked flowers

capercaillie Fri 25-Nov-16 20:39:15

You must be shocked - I've just been through similar and was shocked to get a BFP as I had no symptoms - unlike other pregnancies. You have to go with what feels right for you at this point

3boys3dogshelp Fri 25-Nov-16 20:48:41

DH thinks it's an evap but it appeared immediately so I don't think it is. I do think I need to retest in a few days before I go into panic mode. I feel pregnant though, that's why I tested.
The more I think about it the more I know there is no choice to be made. We are only just getting back on an even keel after ds3 who is 3 now. We have one ds being investigated for ASD and 2 more who I have my suspicions about! Ds3 is beautiful and I adore him, but he nearly broke me and our marriage. I just can't put us all through that again.
It doesn't make me feel good about it though...

Allthewaves Fri 25-Nov-16 22:03:31

Massive hugs. Iv 3dc too. One asd, one adhd and a 3 yr old. Same for me with 3rd ds - he broke me and our marriage is still fragile and he's 3 yrs old. I never thought I'd have a termination but now I know for absolute certainty we really couldn't cope with a 4th dc.

3boys3dogshelp Fri 25-Nov-16 22:27:07

Thanks Allthewaves, so glad someone knows how I'm feeling.

3boys3dogshelp Sat 26-Nov-16 17:52:48

I've done 3 tests today and they're all negative. I think (hope) it's more likely to be a faulty test than a failed vasectomy. Feeling pretty relieved today after a very sleepless night.

JennyHolzersGhost Sat 26-Nov-16 17:55:42

Fingers crossed for you OP flowers

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