WIBU to call 999

(22 Posts)
Rinoachicken Thu 24-Nov-16 17:41:23

So just called police re a domestic disturbance.

Was walking down the road and hear this man shouting so loudly in his house from the other side of the road. I could literally hear pretty much every word he was shouting. He was stood in his living room yelling a woman stood opposite, no lights on so could just see silhouettes.

That was bad enough but he then picked something up (like a vase or candlestick) and starts threatening with it, holding t as if to hit her.

So I called the police.

I am am a bit sensative about DV atm having just left my abusive husband after 6 years, so I don't know if I was being unreasonable and should have just minded my own business?

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Thu 24-Nov-16 17:42:18

YANBU. You witnessed a crime in progress, that is what 999 is for!

Netflixandchill Thu 24-Nov-16 17:43:15

Yanbu and I'm sorry you had to see this. That sort of thing escalates and leads on to worse when it isn't exposed. Hopefully a visit from the police will be a wake up call that the behaviour isn't normal

4sausages Thu 24-Nov-16 17:46:02

I think you were right to. You would never forgive yourself if you hadn't phoned and something terrible had happened.

JellyBelli Thu 24-Nov-16 17:47:17

YANBU, well done for not ignoring it.

tatty1010 Thu 24-Nov-16 17:47:53

You did the right thing and please don't doubt that.
I used to pray for someone to call the police or intervene in some way when I was in situations like that with my ex. sad
YWDNBU

Champagneformyrealfriends Thu 24-Nov-16 17:48:00

Yanbu-well done you. flowers

WellErrr Thu 24-Nov-16 17:48:58

YANBU. Well done.

Snowflakes1122 Thu 24-Nov-16 17:49:06

Yanbu. You absolutely did the right thing.

So sorry about your own dv experiences. Well done for leaving. flowers

PrettyBotanicals Thu 24-Nov-16 17:49:12

No. you did the right thing.

Hopefully the police gave the shitty old bully a massive fright at the very least...

WellErrr Thu 24-Nov-16 17:49:54

Think about it this way - would you have called the police if he was a man on the street attacking her?

specialsubject Thu 24-Nov-16 17:49:57

MYOB can kill. You did absolutely the right thing, and good on you for having the balls to do so.

Wishing you well-deserved better times.

WorraLiberty Thu 24-Nov-16 17:50:08

Oh come on, really OP??

I'm sorry, I don't care if I get flamed for this but there have been so many threads lately from people simply looking for a pat on the back, but I think using a situation like this just to get one is stooping quite low.

You sound like a lovely person OP thanks

There, I said it.

tatty1010 Thu 24-Nov-16 18:03:20

Worra I really believe that people do question they are doing the right thing or not in this kind of situation. They often believe they could make things worse by involving police or intervening in some way.
OP seems to be questioning herself over her decision and I really wish people wouldn't think like this. OP you did the right thing

Rinoachicken Thu 24-Nov-16 18:04:37

I'm sorry you think I'm looking for a pat on the back worra.

I was actually asking because, as I said in my OP, I'm rather over sensative about this sort of thing atm and I also don't have a very healthy or reliable judge of what 'normal' is so wanted to know if other would have done the same.

Thank you to those who have reassured me.

NotNob Thu 24-Nov-16 18:10:10

FGS, given what the OP had told us about her history, perhaps she lacks a frame of reference in this area. I would instinctively know the right course of action in this situation; other areas in which I've had negative experiences, not so much.

Well done, OP, sorry for your Dv experiences.

ValaMalDoran Thu 24-Nov-16 18:10:56

You did the right thing.

goddessofsmallthings Thu 24-Nov-16 18:16:30

flowers You sound like a rightminded citizen, OP.

Have this <pat> on the back for not walking by as many others would have done.

WorraLiberty Thu 24-Nov-16 18:17:25

Actually OP, reading my post back, it was unnecessarily arsey so I'm sorry.

I usually just click straight out of these threads, and that's what I should have done this time too thanks

Of course you did the right thing if you thought there was a possibility someone was about to be bludgeoned with an object, being held by an angry/aggressive man.

Wonderingwoe Fri 25-Nov-16 01:12:36

That must have been extremely loud unless the windows were open?!
Well done for doing the right thing and for leaving your situation too x

Rinoachicken Fri 25-Nov-16 08:29:57

Windows were closed

KayTee87 Fri 25-Nov-16 08:39:06

You did the right thing. I wish one of the 20 people walking past in a nightclub had done something when an ex bf had me against the wall by my throat. It was over 10 years ago but I will never forget desperately looking at people walking past hoping they would intervene.

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