To think if I want a mirena coil removed, it should be removed?

[Momentumista]

I had the face 'well...no I don't think we'd want to be removing it yet' routine when make appt to ask. Was told 'Come back in 6 months when it's settled'... etc etc

This is not a 'how was the coil for you' thread as I know some people love it and swear by it, but really I know my own body by now and I know how I feel and I was

(a) crazy;
(b) gaining weight while eating the same;
(c) spotty as hell (really nasty acne);
(d) depressed;
(e) migraines;
(f) just feeling really heavy and uncomfortable.

And yet while presenting all of these symptoms I get told they will settle and migraines are not dangerous.

I pulled the bloody thing out myself and am already feeling better (1 week on) and skin is clearing, and lo and behold the jeans I could not get anywhere near done up are now done up.

I am really disappointed not to have been listened to though. WIBU to take matters into my own hands?

[BeardofZeus]

You pulled it out yourself??????? Holy moly, kudos to you!!! But yes, I agree! It's a choice to use it, it should be a choice to not

[Momentumista]

Yes Beard I was so cross and I knew I wasn't feeling right, I just couldn't stand feeling so ill any more.

It was easy peasy - just like a tampon. (A lot easier than going in that's for sure!)

[Soubriquet]

It's crazy how much they try to fob you off

I had no end of side effects and got fobbed off at 6 months. Couldn't brave taking it out myself

Finally got "permission" to have it removed after another 12 months.

Suddenly everything has gone back to normal

[Piehunter]

The pressure to have a coil is horrible (they were trying to get me to have one instead of depo injection, very insistently!!) and the delay of removing it is totally unacceptable, my auntie had the same thing as you, didn't get on with it at all, and she had to tell them she wanted another baby to get them to remove it!

[Hamiltoes]

I remember sitting up one night Googleing how to get it out myself! I was like you OP and had to literally beg the doctor, and tell them I was now trying for a baby, to get it out of me.

Horrible.

[ruthsmumkath]

I had a lecture about how expensive they were before I got mine 'installed' - over £100 - so don't think my surgery would be chuffed if I wanted it out but would expect them to do it - well done on removing it!

I love mine but there is nothing that suits everyone.

[Graphista]

Yabu to remove yourself I'm not sure that's recommended.

But yanbu to want it removed - I've seen here and on other forum lots of women reporting being patronised, dismissed and spoken to condescendingly when it comes to removing contraception (coils and rods). I'm no expert on contraception but I'd have thought the migraines alone would indicate it's not suitable and potentially harmful for you personally.

[VimFuego101]

YANBU.

[CaesiumTime]

YANBU!

I cannot fucking believe that they refused to take it out for you!

That's insane!

[sofato5miles]

I have just refused one on the basis of a hideous reaction to Depo before. Aren't they are both progesterone?

Now deciding between an ablation or hysterectomy. Joy

[Groovee]

I'm holding out for ablation. But they have tried and tried to get me to have a mirena. Consultant said I was the first one she failed to persuade. Mini pill isn't working. No sex drive and bleeding constantly for 2 weeks!

[Champagneformyrealfriends]

That's made my nethers clench but Yanbu.

[JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff]

See this right here is the main reason I would never EVER get LARC. Because I just don't trust them to take it out if I react.

I react really strong to synthetic hormones in MAP (only had it once but it was an awful 24 hours) and in early pregnancy. So I'm guessing that LARC might be similar.

Whatever, not going to take the chance!

[Momentumista]

Graphista, I hear what you say but I didn't do anything different to what a professional would have done - i.e. grab strings and pull. They wouldn't do it (despite the fact it's my body) so I did.

[ViewBasket]

YANBU. Of course you should be able to get it taken out on request. Surely you're not obliged to continue a medical treatment without your permission?

[Greengoddess12]

I would think it's actually illegal for a doctor to refuse to remove a coil? Surely your body. Would love a clever legal brain to comment. Obviously mine isn't one.

Op I sympathise I had the Mirena fitted 3 years ago for constant bleeding and it took 9 months to stop the bleeding. Then seemed to work for 9 months and now bleeding again. Have had 2 hysteroscopies and they can't see what the problem is.

So what's the point of having it in? Like you feel bloated and have put on weight, anxious and just ache in all joints. I have a lovely GP who hope will remove it on Monday and get some HRT.

I actually would rather cope with low level bleeding than the other symptoms.

[Momentumista]

Green - true; I don't know what would have happened if I'd said 'NO I WANT IT OUT NOW - it's illegal for you to refuse...'and kicked up a fuss... but you don't like to do you? You also worry your card will be marked as a 'trouble maker'.

[MyKidsHaveTakenMySanity]

It's terrible that you had to do that! I don't care how much it costs, if it is having such bad side effects then they are breaking every doctor's most sacred oath. To do no harm.

I had a huge fight on my hands with a male doc (I say male as I would assume a woman who has periods would understand) who insisted I have the depo shot. I did and I bled pretty much non-stop for 3 months. I went back and said "nope, no good. I want something else". He acted as though I couldn't be trusted to remember pills and refused. Told me a second depo shot would settle everything down and I would have no bleeding. Nope. Another 3 months of constant periods. No sex for me so I guess it worked in a completely different way!
I went back a third time. Got that prat again and the only option he gave me was the depo, swearing blind that it would definitely not bleed a third time. I was 17 and an idiot. I bled for another 3 months.

I was 17, living alone, working to pay my rent and spent every damned spare penny keeping 'Always' in business.

Leone doctors are jobsworths and as such, ignorant to your needs.

[MyKidsHaveTakenMySanity]

*some not Leone

[eurochick]

You should write to your surgery practice manager and tell them that you had to resort to removing it yourself. It's bloody outrageous.

[Graphista]

My comment was not against you op purely because I would hate someone to remove themselves and cause an injury or worse. It IS bloody ridiculous that a simple request isn't followed, as pps have said I wonder

A what would they do if addressed legally

B if a man would be forced to continue an unnecessary medical treatment causing horrible side effects somehow I doubt it

Still too many (particularly) male Drs who refuse to accept women KNOW their bodies. In my case this attitude, the result was the loss of 3 babies, and many years of pain and illness.

[expatinscotland]

I got fobbed off. 10 months of constant bleeding even with that pill they give you that supposedly stops it, cystic acne, no libido and incredibly low mood. I'm in my mid 40s now and have suffered child bereavement and have a son with autism, if I tried one of those now I've no doubt I would end my life. But was still asked many times if I wanted one again, even though my dh has had a vasectomy. Finally had to get it put in my notes that I would never again consent to one of those again and why.

YANBU. I'd complain to the practice manager.

[NewStartNewName]

I pulled mine out myself too!!!

[Whocansay]

I was also pressured into having one after wanting to get the implant. It took about 18 months to settle, but I believe it is giving me horrible moods swings (I didn't have them before at least). I've had it for nearly 3 years, but I also want it out. The GP was very reluctant when I asked. I was considering just pulling it out - from the responses on this thread, I assume this is not recommended? Surely that's all the GP would do though?

[Graphista]

I'm also interested in WHY gp's etc are pushing this method of contraception, even though £100 is it cheaper long term than other methods?