To be DONE with our situation!?

[user1477282676]

I've posted in Chat too...sorry...I just need some sensible MNrs to come on and give me a good talking to.

We've been here in our current rental house for a year having emigrated last July.

We love the area and were hoping they wouldn't sell for a while.

No happening. Got an email last week asking did we want to buy it as they were "considering selling"

We're not in a position to buy yet. We MIGHT be in a year but probably not for about 2 realistically.

I just feel frigging sick to the back teeth of moving all the time.

Our last home ironically was a council flat in the UK and we COULD have had it for life but emigrating was our dream and we chose that...we had a lot of financial assistance from our inlaws to manage the big move and after almost a year, we've saved quite a bit thanks to my DH having a better job...we also had a gift from inlaws towards our deposit but we're not there yet.

We;re so happy here in Oz...no desire to go back to the UK...but the MOVING! It's constant.

Before our council flat we had a rental for 8 years and I was devestated when it was sold.

Now it's like the whole process is starting again in Oz. Find a nice place, settle down but not TOO much....then BAM! Out you go.

I'm tired of it. I also worry about the effect on the DC. They took the move to Oz SO well....and now this!

We can rent in the same or similar area and they won't need to change schools but they have to get used to another area all over again! Is it going to damage them?

I'm not even that attached to the idea of owning a home. I'd happily rent forever if I knew it was permanent. We have little to no chance of the AUssie version of council housing as there's a big shortage and we're both employed so not vulnerable...I feel sad about facing strangers coming into the house to look around again....and upset that we have to un-personalise the place...though we've not REALLY made it our own after a year.

Give me a grip! Tell me how lucky we are! Tell me the DC won't be made to feel insecure. Please.

[Planty18]

I totally understand how you are feeling, this happened to us when our eldest was small but we were probably 6 months off being ready to buy something. Yes, you are lucky for many reasons but that doesn't mean you can't feel sick of moving. Your Dc will be fine though. Ours have adjusted to moving better than we have every time - 6 yr old on home no. 5 and we've lived in this one over 2 years now! It's exhausting but just think how amazing it will be to have your own place that you can personalise and feel secure in next time. Try and see this for what it is, the final hurdle, the last rental, I hope you can find somewhere nearby. Also, just because the landlord is thinking of selling they may not. Another thing to consider is if you would want to buy your current rental as if so and you're a year off could you make some arrangement around that with them? Good luck

[onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad]

They only said they were 'considering selling' - maybe you could explain your predicament and say that you're not in a position to buy at the moment but you will be in 1-2 yrs. That's assuming you'd like to buy the house you're currently renting.

[Clandestino]

Is there anything like the rent to buy scheme around? I'd see it as a good option if you're craving stability.
Otherwise, as you know yourself, there's a huge difference between your real life situation and your emotional outburst. You are lucky in having a great family, jobs and life in a country you like. But moving is draining so
I understand the news had a bad emotional impact on you.

[user1477282676]

Thanks all. The rent to buy scheme is illegal in S.A. where we live. It's true that they did say "considering selling" but they're asking now about having it valued....then discussing our situation further with us.

To suss out if we can afford it I suppose. If they think we can then they might be amenable to waiting for a while. :(

I feel anxious about making up the shortfall though....the pressure I mean.

[rubybleu]

You moved to the other side of the world! If you're craving stability for your kids, 12 months in a rental is the least of your problems. You seem to have had a good run with 8 years in one flat and a council flat as well - not many people are that lucky.

I lived in five houses between 0 and 8. My parents would buy, do up, and sell. It didn't affect me. I have also done the other move, Australia to London.

[antimatter]

Is it possible that you are projecting your worries onto your kids?
You say yourself thst they took the full move very well. They will be fine.

[PoldarksBreeches]

Yeah, to be fair, 8 years in one rental, then a council flat, with possibility of buying in a year doesn't sound that unstable or insecure at all. And you can find somewhere in the same area for school? Not seeing the huge issue to be honest. Count your blessings.

[NightWanderer]

I'd wait and see. I'm in a similar position but different country. In my case, the landlord sold our house with us as tenants in situ (think that's the correct term). As such, nothing has changed except the owner, but the rent is the same and we didn't have to do anything.

[madgingermunchkin]

I'm a military brat, so I moved a lot.

As long as your children feel loved and secure at home, they will be fine.

Moving is good for children. It teaches them how to deal with life!

[JosephineMaynard]

This is one of the things I hated about renting.

We had houses sold out from under us as well, and the constant sense of insecurity it left us with wasn't pleasant. But that's from an adult POV.

[PlumsGalore]

I think in Australia this happens a lot due to the massive past increases in housing value and negative gearing. I think you will see this more as the economy is Australia is less stable than it has been historically and housing cannot continue to increase, investors are going to sell before any property decrease to maximise their profit.

Try to negotiate a two year lease on the next house but only if you are confident your jobs are secure.

[44PumpLane]

We moved around loads when I was a kid, including a 14 month stint in California and then a move from the South to the North of the UK when I was 8.

I think by the time I was 16 we'd lived in 6 or 7 houses- I thought it was great! No ill effects at all!

As someone who has moved about a lot I don't actually like the idea of a single family home as I think it can make you have an emotional attachment to a single property so if you fall on hard times or if your parents pass you then have the added upset of leaving a much loved family home. Whereas, as much as I love some of the homes we've had, I tend not to get too emotionally attached to the physical building :)

[greenfolder]

Take a deep breath and do a sense check.
How saleable is the house?
Would you choose to buy it out of all the houses available?
If you wanted to buy it, when could you? A year?
How much would they save by selling to you? (fees, avoiding voids)
Then consider your next steps.

[MrsLyons]

13 houses by the time I was 10 here (and 3 primary schools).

No ill effects... in fact I'd say it made me more willing to uproot myself as an adult to follow career opportunities and as a result, I'm doing better than I would have if I stayed in one place.

[user1477282676]

Thank you all for the grips!

Green....the house is in an area which is desirable but there seem to be loads on the market suddenly...well over the past few months anyway. The next door neighbour's has been on sale for 8 months with no buyer yet.

I think part of the issue is the houses here aren't cheap and people think "Meh...not that nice for the price" because you can get much more interesting period jhomes in an area which isn't quite as chic but for a lot less.

DH and I have been swinging between "We REALLY want this house" and "Meh we could do better in a less pricey area."

It's so tricky! If I ask the landlords to wait a year then we're sort of obliged to buy it aren't we? Morally I mean.