To insist DP coughs up?

(45 Posts)
supersop60 Wed 23-Nov-16 18:16:45

DP and DS had a confrontation a couple of days ago. DP tried to get DS to put more detail into a piece of homework, and DS didn't want to, tried to explain why, and DP just talked over him. He does this a LOT, and DS lost his temper - 'why don't you listen to me, why don't you let me finish my sentence?' etc
DP lost HIS temper then and smashed DS's tablet down and broke it - the screen is smashed and it's unusable.
DP has just said - why should I order him a new one - it's just rewarding him for his bad behaviour.
I said - you smashed it in temper - you have to replace it.
DP now muttering about getting the other one repaired instead.
DP seems to think it wasn't his fault, and that DS 'made' him do it.
I am totally shock shock

Colabottle10 Wed 23-Nov-16 18:18:03

Completely should be your DP that pays to repair it.

MiniAlphaBravo Wed 23-Nov-16 18:18:09

I think dp should def pay and that he needs to sort his temper out.

wakeupandsmellthecoffee Wed 23-Nov-16 18:18:09

What a fecking knob
Seriously nasty

Lilaclily Wed 23-Nov-16 18:19:20

God how old is your poor ds ?

NashvilleQueen Wed 23-Nov-16 18:19:41

I'd replace it myself and get rid of 'D'P to be honest

Chippednailvarnishing Wed 23-Nov-16 18:19:57

You've got bigger problems than a tablet...

Walkerbean16 Wed 23-Nov-16 18:20:06

He sounds awful.

But if it can be repaired cheaper than replacing it surely that's ok? As long as he pays for it.

GizmoFrisby Wed 23-Nov-16 18:20:52

What a prick. Your poor dd. He needs to sort more than the tablet out!!

Motherwithflaws Wed 23-Nov-16 18:21:29

Ditch dp, replace/fix tablet

supersop60 Wed 23-Nov-16 18:21:47

DS is nearly 13. It's a tablet that he uses at school, and he's currently borrowing mine. So repair or buy - it needs to be done asap.

MauiChristmas Wed 23-Nov-16 18:22:04

I don't think who pays for the repair is the issue. You have a bigger problem.

kittybiscuits Wed 23-Nov-16 18:22:42

I would be thinking about telling your P to make other living arrangements. The way he speaks to your DS is unacceptable. Smashing his pad in a rage would be the last straw. Insisting it's DS's fault is the icing on the cake.

MrsTerryPratchett Wed 23-Nov-16 18:22:50

Smashing things in anger is a form of domestic abuse. Is this common? With you? With the DC?

supersop60 Wed 23-Nov-16 18:24:13

At the time it happened I bellowed at DP 'that is unacceptable!'
It sounds pathetic written down, but I have a job that requires me to have a very loud voice - I even surprised myself. It stopped him in his tracks.

TheLobsterRollPlease Wed 23-Nov-16 18:24:43

Wow.. Your DP needs to buy or replace the tablet ASAP. Like Chippednailvarnishing you've got bigger problems, DP should not be losing his temper the way he is.

SouthWindsWesterly Wed 23-Nov-16 18:25:41

Fucking hell...

DP needs to pay to replace. Then DP needs to move out and sort out his anger issues. That's extreme and the worrying thought is whether this is usual behaviour for him or whether it's out of character because either way, he needs help.

Arfarfanarf Wed 23-Nov-16 18:27:24

So that's what he wants to teach the chold is it?
That when you're cross it's ok to smash up someone's stuff and blame them for you doing it?

So if your son does the same that'll be ok with him i assume?

He's behaved like a dick and he should grow the fuck up.

Thattimeofyearagain Wed 23-Nov-16 18:27:39

Replace the dp

Coffeethrowtrampbitch Wed 23-Nov-16 18:28:14

I'd sell DP's stuff to the value of the tablet and replace it for ds.

Then I would tell DP if he was prepared to apologise and admit that an adult destroying a child's possessions is abusive and unacceptable, he could continue to live with me and ds, otherwise he would have to leave.

ijustwannadance Wed 23-Nov-16 18:28:24

He will get worse the older your son gets as he will have less and less control over him.

JellyBelli Wed 23-Nov-16 18:28:25

DP is turning nasty now DS is becoming a teenager., He needs to go for CBT and sort that out, or he will alienate DS.
And he should apologise and replace the tablet.

QueenOfTheNaps Wed 23-Nov-16 18:29:46

If it can be repaired then DP should pay to repair it.
He should never have lost his temper like that and I would echo PP.. Is he often this aggressive?
I know certain tablet screens are very fragile anyway so it wouldn't have necessarily been much of a whack to make it smash but still... unacceptable.

supersop60 Wed 23-Nov-16 18:29:54

No, he shouldn't be losing his temper like this. DS didn't swear or call names - he tried to stick up for himself. It's happening more and more - and actually DP's behaviour is getting odder. Either he's ill, or it's just having the usual alpha male type conflict. It is worrying. thanks for the comments.

IminaPickle Wed 23-Nov-16 18:30:50

I know it's completely not the point of your thread but Kindle fires are £25 on Amazon at the moment.

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