Holiday with inlaws

(15 Posts)
Icallbullshit3 Mon 21-Nov-16 17:25:52

Hi all,

I could do with some perspective. My in laws have been leaning on my husband to book a week away in Lincolnshire in July. A cottage together in the middle of nowhere. I reminded my other half that previously we went on holiday with them to France and it was awful. They like to self cater so not a rest and my other half argued a lot with his dad. They also aren't the sort of people to go off and do their own thing at all, so we lived in each other's pockets. It really wasn't very relaxing. My other half said if we ever did it again then we should never stay in the same accommodation again.

We just got married in October and we are saving our money for our honeymoon in February which we haven't yet booked. We haven't booked because we wanted to get a last miniute deal for ourselves and our young children (2,1). I said I thought he should concentrate on booking this before committing to his parents but was ignored because he didn't see my problem.

They've now booked this week away and my other half owes them £250... but he says it's ok because he doesn't have to pay them back till May, grr.

I've said I'm not going. Would I be unreasonable to bugger off myself that week alone and spend £250?

I'm pissed off because the in laws know we haven't even booked our own family holiday yet and still... i just feel very disregarded.

Andrewofgg Mon 21-Nov-16 17:28:45

Don't go on holiday with in-laws.

Just don't.

For your own sake.

Just don't do it.

2410ang Mon 21-Nov-16 17:32:38

Don't do it. We did once. Never again. Get on just fine with in-laws but living in each other's pockets was hideous and DH also rowed with FIL....

Don't put yourself and DC's through it!!

bloodyteenagers Mon 21-Nov-16 17:36:32

He's more than welcome to go. He can take the D.C.'s as well and you will enjoyed the week of peace and quiet.

pipsqueak25 Mon 21-Nov-16 18:02:46

bloody hell dh, you do like your little jokes don't you ? what your serious a holiday with the inlaws ? oh well, have a great time with your folks dh byeeee! smile, wave and look forward to a restful week with your dcs', dh will bottle out smile

Icallbullshit3 Mon 21-Nov-16 18:18:46

He is taking the dc. I think he will have a miserable time personally

NavyandWhite Mon 21-Nov-16 18:21:42

Lincolnshire - on holiday - in a cottage in the middle of nowhere?

Nope.

toffeeboffin Mon 21-Nov-16 18:24:05

We went camping for two nights with our in-laws.

It was hell.

Ahickiefromkinickie Mon 21-Nov-16 18:30:06

YANBU. He committed to it without your agreement so he can go without you.

Bitofacow Mon 21-Nov-16 18:39:59

You are very generously allowing them time to bond. They can all bond. I would offer to pack so they could bond. They can go and bond away, in the rain, in a cottage in exciting Lincolnshire.

You will sadly have to sit at home not bonding. You will have the house to yourself for a week. You will be able to not bond in the bath. Not bond with a glass of wine. Not bond watching what you want on the telly.

Sometimes you have to think others not yourself. They need this time together WITHOUT YOU. So sad.

Ragwort Mon 21-Nov-16 18:42:43

Absolutely, let them go without you; don't be petty and insist on spending the same amount on yourself - otherwise it will become an issue about the money and not the fact that he chooses to holiday with his parents, just enjoy a rest at home. smile

fc301 Mon 21-Nov-16 19:59:38

Book in haste ... repent at leisure!

Wolpertinger Mon 21-Nov-16 20:27:28

Do not go. Make a stand for the sake of your future marriage.

expatinscotland Mon 21-Nov-16 20:55:37

Send him off with the DCs.

Anatidae Mon 21-Nov-16 21:03:21

Wave him off...

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