I have 6 children ,4 of them fine no problems at school but 2 who struggle for different reasons.
Ds has always struggled with the actual work . Until the end of year 4 we struggled along at school , he is generally ok but he just finds it extremely difficult to concentrate and he has terrible difficulty writing (I have attached a picture of his writing to show you what I mean).
The school gave him some extra help but once he got to a certain level (still well below what you would expect) this stopped after that he was pretty much left to get on and this caused major problems, panic attacks crying when asked to read etc.
By September this year things were so bad we took him out of school . We felt like we had tried our best in two different schools and he was at a point where it was more damaging for him to continue as he was than to leave.
He has been home educated since September and he has improved so much not his writing or his work but god he can look at a book now without having a panic attack he can listen to a story he will even read small passages.
Today a teacher came out to see us come the local authority and she was lovely but repeatedly kept saying that "a child like this needs to return to school as soon as possible". She basically told me that he should be aiming to return to the SEN group for year 7 but he has been in these groups before he was bullied , the behaviour of he other children was terrible and downright dangerous on occasion I see no advantage to this.
She also referred to my daughter who is 6. I know that she recently had a social and emotional assesment as she has struggled so much socially at school . She is way ahead in her schoolwork but socially she can't cope.
The teacher today said "so it looks like she's on the spectrum". Apparently the tests she has had have been to looks for autism. I mean she has them 2 months ago and no one ever contacted me back so I just thought It was all fine
Anyway I just feel so shit like wtf am I supposed to do about any of this.
I have one child who I am told might be able to get some key skills certificate if he goes back to
School rathet than stays home and one who I just have no idea what I am supposed to do.
I feel like just telling everyone to fuck off and leave hem alone - we are getting on fine and making progress. I feel like just keeping my 6 year old home with me and ds and just doing what each needs the best we can. I know that's not how it works but I wish it was.
Aibu to just go to bed and cry because I don't feel like there is anything I can do? Ds is really upset because he was of course he wipe all his was going on and I feel powerless to help either ds or dd.
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Aibu to just sit in a heap and cry because I don't know what people expect me to do about this.
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rainrainrainrainmorerain · 21/11/2016 17:02
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