I am being unreasonable and I won't do it but...
My other half is now going out to pick up our teen, take her for a meal and try and put her back together.
She was invited to her "friend's" birthday, told to go round at 2pm, went there to find no one in. Stood outside before ringing us.
We rang the mum, not reachable by mobile. She rang another friend who confirmed date, time and venue were correct (but she was unable to attend). We emailed mum to ask if something had gone wrong as DD was outside in the rain, noone there.
The friend who could not go's mum rang birthday girl's mum who then rang DD to say:
Party was at 12 not 2 and "friend" and others were out somewhere
Birthday girl's mum and rest of family were out eating elsewhere but would contact her to ring DD.
We told DD to come home or one of us would meet her. She said (and my heart is breaking) as she was already there, all dressed up and nowhere to go and had already got the presents, she would sit in a nearby cafe and await a phonecall.
Half an hour later still nothing and so her Dad has gone to get her and take her out for a meal.
Kids are 15.
Back story: DD and "friend" were close until DD had to move classes. Last couple of months "friend" has claimed to have no mobile, been unavailable to do anything and generally distant. DD thought there might be some slow fade/ghosting going on so was delighted to receive a birthday invite and said yes, she'd love to celebrate with her, what would her friend like etc (she went out and bought and wrapped the gifts herself). DD now feels that she was stood up.
To be clear DD would never ever angle for an invite to anything or self-invite nor would she have been upset or surprised not to have had an invite (she might not even have known given the class change). Therefore there was no obligation to send a duty invite or pity invite.
So why the hell did she ask her over if she didn't want her there? Why pretend she has no phone/how could she ring her (as Mum promised) if she has no mobile?
Advice please.
DD will be in school on Monday but might not see her unless seeking her out.
Takes her her gift anyway then let the whole friendship die?
Calls her on it and tells her how hurt she was?
Used the gift for Secret Santa and ignore friend from now on/whole situation?
Hold head up high and do nothing at all?
Mum has not replied to e-mail. The chance of DD getting time wrong was possible...the chance of the friend who could not go getting time wrong not so likely (so when she confirmed DD had the right time I find it hard to believe they both got it wrong).
Her Dad is best at this as he will just feed DD and listen.
Anyone's DD had something similar? What did they do and how did you support?
Thanks in advance
Kimmy x (stuck on a stupid Halloween name change).
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AlchemySchmidtsSmile · 19/11/2016 14:52
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