To find sharing a Facebook profile with partner odd

(47 Posts)
Snowflakes1122 Thu 17-Nov-16 09:56:16

I keep seeing people on Facebook who share Facebook accounts with their DH/DP. For example 'Emma n John Davis'

Just why do some people feel the need to do this? confused

guinnessgirl Thu 17-Nov-16 10:06:33

I do know a few technical illiterates who share a profile because 'it's easier' or they just prefer it that way. However... if a couple ever merge their Facebook accounts when they were previously two individuals, I'm afraid it SCREAMS suspected or actual infidelity. I personally know two couples for whom this was the case, and the wife in each case was keeping their husband on a very short leash as a result of the breakdown in trust. A bit sad really.

Fortitudine Thu 17-Nov-16 10:36:18

I agree with guinnessgirl - my first thought on seeing a shared profile is which one had the affair?

CannotEvenDeal Thu 17-Nov-16 10:37:14

I can't bear separate profiles with the same lovey pic either. Vom.

ThisIsStartingToBoreMe Thu 17-Nov-16 10:37:30

Yep! One of them has cheated and can't be trusted grin

VintagePerfumista Thu 17-Nov-16 10:38:58

It sounds very anti-feminist to say it, but I'd bet my bottom dollar the setter-uppers of such pathetic pages are the women.

It seems to give them a kind of sad validity. "Look! I've got a man!"

My half-sister's page is XlovesY and their surname. <boak> I just know he doesn't have a clue he is half of a naff FB page full of selfies and pictures of their dinner.

PenelopeFlintstone Thu 17-Nov-16 10:39:05

The ones I know who have it are Christian (Baptists) couples.

DeleteOrDecay Thu 17-Nov-16 10:39:36

Yeah I think it's weird. Can't help but wonder which one cheated.

TheTroutofNoCraic Thu 17-Nov-16 10:41:29

The only people I have ever known to have a shared FB is one where the DH had cheated...the wife was in control of the FB page also.

WipsGlitter Thu 17-Nov-16 11:51:33

My sister doesn't have one but uses her DPs and will comment on stuff but sign it off from her. hmm

chemicalCat Thu 17-Nov-16 12:37:02

I know one couple you do this. Neither has had an affair (and I do know them pretty well). I think they do it as she's a bit technophobic but likes to take a look every now and again. (She may be trying to keep tabs on him but I don't think so. That said it does look a bit odd.

Wips, my DH looks at my FB occasionally and tried to do this. Told him to set up his own. He won't because he doesn't "do Facebook".

Ohdearducks Thu 17-Nov-16 12:39:43

I think it's those 'we do everything together and are best friends in every way' types. Vom 😖

KatsutheClockworkOctopus Thu 17-Nov-16 12:53:12

In the only couple I know who do this, the husband is very dominant and controlling. Even her emails come from Howard_Hilda88 and you just get the feeling he is looking over your shoulder all the time. Not good.

TheNaze73 Thu 17-Nov-16 13:24:32

I always assume one of them are up to extra shenanigans and are on a tight lead

mygorgeousmilo Thu 17-Nov-16 13:24:39

Yes, to me spells out that one or another of them can't be trusted. Or. They can be trusted but one half is very weird and controlling.

Almost as confused to me as when they put themselves as someone's parent, as in: "Jane Max n Isobel's mummy". Sorry, don't you have a name? For the record I'd say that mumsnet usernames don't irk me in any way. I think because on Facebook it's meant to be your actual name, I find it odd when it isn't.

BorpBorpBorp Thu 17-Nov-16 13:32:26

I've only ever seen it on older couples, and assumed it was because they had been together so long they don't have any friends or interests independent of one another, so always portray themselves as a single unit.

SwearyGodmother Thu 17-Nov-16 13:36:25

The one I know is an older couple who also have merged their names in a disturbing way - so Edward and Sophie* have become EdSop Surname. Yuck.

*Names changed to protect the idiots

ZoFloMoFo Thu 17-Nov-16 13:38:25

I always think one of them has cheated

Or one of them is a controlling jealous partner.

OnionKnight Thu 17-Nov-16 13:39:35

My wife's aunt and uncle share a FB profile, the uncle can barely work his phone let alone FB grin

user1471439240 Thu 17-Nov-16 13:41:22

It's usually female led, not always a have cheated thing. More of a trust issue thing and ultimately a form of control, however its dressed up.
It is not exactly difficult to set up a Facebook account.

ShotsFired Thu 17-Nov-16 13:48:06

I admin a secret FB group which needs a specific 'qualification' to join. We have refused membership to people with joint profiles. Officially this is because the other person is not qualified. Unofficially it is because they are fricking weirdos. We also apply that to people who have clearly fake or comedy (and I use that term lightly) names.

And just this week, I saw a joint LinkedIn profile! No picture, just the full names and surnames, commenting on a work-related article. Felt like clones!

Skittlesss Thu 17-Nov-16 16:27:35

I know a couple who do this - I can never tell which one of them has commented on something. :/

The bloke told me that they didn't have separate accounts because "Facebook Causes Problems". I told him that people cause problems not the bloody website.

LurkingHusband Thu 17-Nov-16 16:29:30

my first thought on seeing a shared profile is which one had the affair?

Isn't that vow renewal ?

TheWrathFromHighAtopTheThing Thu 17-Nov-16 16:30:07

The only couple I know who do this only set up their qccount as most of our friends organise parties and stuff through FB.

Neither of them are that fussed about it for any other reason so I think one account just to see the events is enough for them.

SemiNormal Thu 17-Nov-16 16:33:26

I know two couples who have done this.

1st couple, quite young but married. Have seperated numerous times and on those occasions they've got with other people. Definitely trust thing with those.

2nd couple, late 50s, been together forever and have 3 children. Definitely no affair or trust issues. They have all the same friends etc anyway so I guess they just figured to make a joint one.

I've never done it but I do get why some couples might. Some of the messages I've had off 'friends' of ex partners have been fucking awful, I guess joint accounts stops any of the messages before they begin.

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