to say no to this 13th birthday party invitation?

(79 Posts)
LilaTheLion Wed 16-Nov-16 22:37:24

I've been handed a 13th birthday invitation by 12 year old DD, lovely.

Only its a 10pm finish, next Thursday. Which is a school night.

She'll hate me if I say no... But my gut is saying "WTAF, IT'S A SCHOOL NIGHT?!"

In the interests of never drip feeding, I am taking her to a concert on Sunday that wont finish til 10 with a 2 hour drive home. Which invalidates my position somewhat...

YelloDraw Wed 16-Nov-16 22:42:45

Is it close by?
If she gets to bed for 11 and can sleep till 8 it would be ok.

LilaTheLion Wed 16-Nov-16 22:43:55

She has to get up at 6ish for school

BusyBeez99 Wed 16-Nov-16 22:44:24

We went to young voices and the coach arrived back 2am. He was still in school 8.45am

SavageBeauty73 Wed 16-Nov-16 22:44:38

As a one off I'd allow it.

BertrandRussell Wed 16-Nov-16 22:45:28

Get used to it!

Honestly, it'll be fine. Being a bit tired won't hurt her.

WeAllHaveWings Wed 16-Nov-16 22:47:59

She's 12, its a one off, I'd let her go (but would quietly to myself judge parents having a party so late on a school night).

ALemonyPea Wed 16-Nov-16 22:48:37

Yes YABU. Let her go, it's a one off apart from the Sunday night as well

5OBalesofHay Wed 16-Nov-16 22:51:22

Hold firm on reasonable at 12. No way would I agree that on a school night

Scrumptiousbears Wed 16-Nov-16 22:53:24

I suppose it depends on if she is good at going to bed late and getting up early. If she can manage it then fine. If she struggles then possibly not. I'd lean towards a yes myself.

Cocochoco Wed 16-Nov-16 22:53:28

I would say no

PaulAnkaTheDog Wed 16-Nov-16 22:53:45

Let her go!

foursillybeans Wed 16-Nov-16 22:54:14

YANBU to be wtf about it. Not sure who actually thinks it's a good idea to do a party on a school night.
I would actually check a. That it isn't an inset day the next day that you've missed or that the invite does have a mistake on it as in it should be Athe Fri not Thurs.
I would probably reluctantly allow my DD to attend if I were in your shoes but plan an early night on the Friday night. It is a one off and she'll feel terrible the next day if she doesn't go and they are all talking about it.
Enjoy the concert too.

Agiraffeisnotacat Wed 16-Nov-16 22:56:18

I'd be surprised if your 13yo is asleep by 10pm every night? Surely a one off won't hurt?

Leeds2 Wed 16-Nov-16 22:56:33

I would let my DD go, although I can't say that I would be happy about it.

What is the party? Is it a gig, or show, or something that has to be on that particular date rather than the weekend?

MsJamieFraser Wed 16-Nov-16 22:57:27

What time does she go to bed at?

TBH its a one of at this age, as she becomes older it will be regularly. I'd let her, you only live once.

GreatFuckability Wed 16-Nov-16 22:58:15

I think yabu because a) its one night and b) you're doing the same thing on Sunday!

LilaTheLion Wed 16-Nov-16 23:01:31

I would actually check a. That it isn't an inset day the next day that you've missed

blush

Cucumber5 Wed 16-Nov-16 23:04:45

My 13 year old wouldn't cope with such a late night followed by an early morning. I would only do it if the child could have an early night Friday and Saturday.

Chelazla Wed 16-Nov-16 23:05:20

Ha ha ha least you've fessed up! Hope you're daughter has fun and at least you won't worry!

Chelazla Wed 16-Nov-16 23:06:50

On another note I'm surprised how many people find it really late for a 12/13 year old what time do kids this age go to bed? Mine are littlies!!!

ChippyMinton Wed 16-Nov-16 23:09:05

My 12yo is out 3 nights a week doing activities until 9.45-10pm. I would be a bit hmm at a party but there's no difference really.

CocktailQueen Wed 16-Nov-16 23:09:19

Chelazla - my 13yo Dd is in bed by 9 on weekdays, 9.30 at weekends.

SerendipityPhenomenon Wed 16-Nov-16 23:09:41

If you're letting her stay up till midnight on Sunday, there is just no way you will be able to justify refusing to let her stay up till 10 on Thursday. Save yourself the argument and agree.

Redglitter Wed 16-Nov-16 23:10:33

Oops bet you're glad you didn't say no now. Least it makes a bit more sense now smile

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