To want to be left alone!

(11 Posts)
hunnybunny619 Wed 16-Nov-16 22:23:02

I'm due to give birth in the next fortnight (first-timer) but it feels like I've been pregnant forever. I'm not especially bothered if I go over my due date but my mum, sisters, aunts, friends, work colleagues apparently are. I'm getting calls and texts non-stop all day asking me if I've had the baby yet....I haven't even got to my due date yet! WTAF??! I know this is a common thing and I suppose I just need a rant (I'm lucky people care about me etc, etc), but wtf is wrong with people? Why do they think I would've kept the birth a secret from them and not let them know? I guess I'm just feeling very suffocated at the moment. My mum is calling me three times a day, asking if I've had any twinges yet. I'm losing my mind here!
Any advice?!

Grumpyoldblonde Wed 16-Nov-16 22:37:50

I remember this, people are excited for you, I felt very nesty near my due date and wanted to hibernate and enjoy my last peaceful days so I understand but it's because they care about you. Hope all goes smoothly with the birth and beyond for you.

EveOnline2016 Wed 16-Nov-16 22:41:23

I know it's very frustrating.

I would turn my phone off.

kissmethere Wed 16-Nov-16 23:00:10

What kind if photo you have? Can you set it to "do not disturb" when you get a call?
That happened to me. I just stopped answering the phone.

DaintyHippos Wed 16-Nov-16 23:02:34

I think its their way of making conversation thinking you might want to talk about the pregnancy to vent if its getting tough towards the end etc.
YANBU though just say to them you're getting fed up with having the same conversation and change the topic.

AddToBasket Wed 16-Nov-16 23:04:36

Let it go, is my advice. They care- but you don't have to reply.

Ohyesiam Wed 16-Nov-16 23:09:43

Tell them your hormones are making you want to nest QUIETLY, and promise to share the news as son as there is any. Be direct and gentle, People think you are public property when you are pregnant.
But congratulations and hope it all goes well.

Imnotaslimjim Wed 16-Nov-16 23:12:53

Depending on your sense of humour,

Either explain, gently, that you're trying to grab some quiet rest before baby
comes and of course you would let them know when there was some news.

Or

The next person to ask "have you had baby yet" reply "yes, had him 4 days ago, just thought I'd keep the news to myself!"

redexpat Wed 16-Nov-16 23:13:53

tell them to google have you had that baby yet

OwlinaTree Wed 16-Nov-16 23:15:08

You need this handy sitegrin link people who text you to it

ohfourfoxache Thu 17-Nov-16 00:05:52

So, have you had the baby yet? <ducks and grin>

In all seriousness it pissed me off enormously. My mum wasn't too bad, but my sister was a nightmare. Actually she carried on being a nightmare when ds arrived- I didn't answer the phone ( cos I was, you know, trying to look after a baby and couldn't get to it/had other stuff to do) and she called my mum who then turned up on the doorstep as sister had thought we'd died hmm

She had dnephew 5 months later and I got a massive apology.

All I can suggest is actually telling people that you're being overwhelmed with the same question over and over from so many people that you're going to turn your phone off. Hopefully they will take the very obvious hint wink

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