to be upset over a fib (that actually may be a lie)

(81 Posts)
Verticalvenetianblinds Mon 14-Nov-16 07:45:06

I drive dh's car, he drives mine for various reasons. I keep mine in good running condition but it has just had an expensive service/mot.
We spend the whole being a bit poor, nothing to bad, just no luxurys, in overdrafts etc despite working v hard and earning quite well.
I asked him to sort out mot for his car, hes been a bit vague. Finally told me its due end of Nov so he'll get it booked in. In a moment of clarity I googled whens my mot up, dvla website says it expired at end of August! So he's lying about it. But I suppose its possible he genuinely didn't know...
I drive the kids around in it so now I'm nail bitingly anxious. Going to discuss it later after work but aibu to think this is actually quite a 'big' thing to mislead me on?!

treaclesoda Mon 14-Nov-16 07:47:21

Surely it's not possible that he didn't know when it was due for MOT? Do you not get a reminder letter?

Bluntness100 Mon 14-Nov-16 07:48:05

He probably just made a mistake, however no valid mot is serious, it invalidates the insurance, so you need to get it resolved asap.

lougle Mon 14-Nov-16 07:48:17

Well yes, because you're breaking the law by driving it. Can you book it in for after work? Legally you're only allowed to drive it to an MOT garage once it's expired.

Lumpylumperson Mon 14-Nov-16 07:50:35

Maybe he didn't deliberately mislead you but if he didn't and he genuinely forget, it is quite careless of him. He could make a note if the next MOT expiry for next year in his phone etc. Stop driving it and get it MOT'd.

Skittlesss Mon 14-Nov-16 07:51:33

As above. It's easily done though as you don't get any reminder so he could genuinely have thought it was this month.

Cric Mon 14-Nov-16 07:53:22

I have done it with my car... Realised my mistake 2 months after MOT!

VivienneWestwoodsKnickers Mon 14-Nov-16 07:53:44

No, you don't get reminder letters for MOTs. If you use a garage regularly, they may remind you but the DVLA does not.

Do not drive this car. Your insurance is invalidated without an MOT and the police could seize the vehicle if you are stopped. Switch cars back until he sorts it out.

Verticalvenetianblinds Mon 14-Nov-16 07:56:31

I just text him to confirm the date it needs to go in. Definitely expires end of Nov apparently. Is he genuinely happy for me to drive around with an illegal car sad

GreatFuckability Mon 14-Nov-16 07:58:15

I think its weird you are jumping to the conclusion that he's doing it deliberately tbh. Chances are he's just got his dates mixed up. It happens. Just book the car in.

QOD Mon 14-Nov-16 07:58:31

And have you told him that the dvla website says end August?

Skittlesss Mon 14-Nov-16 08:01:04

Have you got the certificate from last time? Or know which garage did it? You could ring to check

saoirse31 Mon 14-Nov-16 08:01:33

Is insurance actually invalidated? Would chk with insurance co I think. If not, then I'd drive it and hope u don't get stopped, if it is invalidated then wouldn't drive it.

Verticalvenetianblinds Mon 14-Nov-16 08:01:58

No not yet, I know I'll be grumpy when I say it and not in the mood to have passive aggressive texts all day. I'm sure its an innocent mistake, just a bit stupid of him

treaclesoda Mon 14-Nov-16 08:03:30

Vivenne I'm in N Ireland and we do get a reminder letter, and MOTs aren't carried out by garages. I didn't realise there were no reminders elsewhere. smile

raspberryrippleicecream Mon 14-Nov-16 08:06:07

Can I just remind people to check it has been done. My DS MOTd her car last year, paid the invoice etc and only realised last week they hadn't registered it. Garage very apologetic and redid it for free but obviously it was totally my DSs responsibility to have checked the piece of paper was there her invoice etc.

SoupDragon Mon 14-Nov-16 08:07:44

Book the car in and stop driving it.

Scooby20 Mon 14-Nov-16 08:11:31

If he is adamant it's November even after you double checked, that would suggest he does genuinely believe it's November.

Unless he has a history of lying, then keeping up the lie once it's found out.

SerendipityPhenomenon Mon 14-Nov-16 08:14:46

No need to have an argument about it. Just book it in for the MOT and tell him you need your car today.

Verticalvenetianblinds Mon 14-Nov-16 08:14:55

He has history of 'Protecting' me. I have form for being stroppy and kicking off without all the facts.
Wibu to refuse to drive it tomoro? (got it today)

Cucumber5 Mon 14-Nov-16 08:16:18

This would be unacceptable to me. More bearable if it was truly accidental. Very serious if part of a network of such lies. What else does he lie about op.

treaclesoda Mon 14-Nov-16 08:18:10

If it has no MOT you can't drive it today either. Tell him you need your own car today.

Bluntness100 Mon 14-Nov-16 08:18:26

Why did you text him and ask him to confirm fate and not just be honest and text him and say just spotted dvla said end of Aug, need to get it booked in?

NoSunNoMoon Mon 14-Nov-16 08:18:42

You cannot drive the car until this is sorted.

Bluntness100 Mon 14-Nov-16 08:18:48

Date not fate!

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