Morning after the night before! AIBU to wear a paper bag over my head on Monday?

(19 Posts)
user1471558080 Sat 12-Nov-16 10:30:05

I'm a long time lurker, first time poster. So last night it was my colleagues birthday and quite a large group of us went to the pub straight from work.

I hate large gatherings at the best of times so started drinking a lot to help me relax! My boss is a bit of a bully and had really laid into me in the day so I wasn't really in the best mood. Terrible combination I know!

Problem is before I knew it I was blind drunk (more than I've been in years) and generally angry with the job and everything and started to sound off to a couple of colleagues and say some pretty negative things about the company and my boss. This is usually so unlike me, I'm usually very professional!

Now I really regret this and I'm already panicking about Monday morning! AIBU to pretend nothing's happened or should I start grovelling?

Mymothersdaughter Sat 12-Nov-16 10:34:19

The age old defence-

"I can't remember a thing from the other night. I hope I didn't do or say anything stupid! So typical of me, I get so over dramatic after a few drinks!"

Then if anyone mentions what you said you just say "really?! I said that? Man I must have been off my face."

millmoo Sat 12-Nov-16 10:38:25

What mymothersdaughter said.
Can't remember a thing !
Hope your hangover not too bad today ?
And remember we've all done things whilst we were drunk that we regretted the next day .
Hopefully everyone will be as drunk as you were and won't remember the conversation smile

OliviaBensonOnAGoodDay Sat 12-Nov-16 10:40:09

In my experience, everyone will u

user1471558080 Sat 12-Nov-16 10:43:06

Thanks both! Denying all knowledge does sound like a plan! I'm not too hungover by some bizarre miracle blush

Awwlookatmybabyspider Sat 12-Nov-16 10:44:16

Alcohol speaks the truth. You only said what you were wanting to say but couldn't. Perhaps you wouldn't have needed the alcohol to be your voice. If your work place was somewhere that you could air your views.
Your boss sounds like a power abusing wanker. It might do him some good to be told how it is.

BastardGoDarkly Sat 12-Nov-16 10:45:41

Oh lord, this is why ill never go out drinking with work. You've got no choice but to front it out, I hope nothing comes of it brew

Bluntness100 Sat 12-Nov-16 10:46:53

Don't mention it, just say what a great night it was, people are more focused on what they did than what anyone else did..,don't stress..

ClopySow Sat 12-Nov-16 10:50:55

Would it make you feel better if i told you a girl i know slapped her boss at the christmas party when he got a bit handsy?

Or that one of my colleagues couldn't look me in the eye until march after he was a massive sex pest at our christmas party?

ItShouldHaveBeenJingleJess Sat 12-Nov-16 11:10:39

I went to a Christmas party where it was a well known fact that there was very bad blood between one female colleague and our boss. She got so pissed, she ended up ranting at him and calling him a cunt. It was a bit like watching a car crash - awful but you couldn't look away. He handled it fairly well, but then she burst into tears, begged him to forgive her before throwing up. No-one mentioned it the following day and a week later, it was forgotten.

My worst was when I worked in a hotel, ended up getting drunk with a colleague, and she dared me to send a dirty text to my boss. I was terrified of going in the next day but he didn't say a word so I thought I'd got away with it. Months later, while at home, he phoned me and asked "Who is this?" I replied "Er, Jess, your receptionist?" He made a bemused sounding "Hmmm" and hung up. The following day, he called me into his office and asked me what the text had been about - at this point, he was very smiley and friendly. In hindsight, I should have told the old bugger I used to have a crush on him, but instead I told the truth -that I was drunk and it had been a dare. He wasn't quite so friendly after my admission and gave me a right bollocking. I still stayed there for another two years, and after a frosty couple of days, he was back to his normal self. Still cringe when I think about it, though...

RhodaBorrocks Sat 12-Nov-16 11:26:13

At one Christmas do I gave the big boss a bit of a telling off! We'd been showing pics of our kids and he said my DS looked 'naughty'. English is his second language, he actually meant 'cheeky' (which is true) but DS has ASD and I was at the time fighting the school to accept he wasn't badly behaved so I saw red.

Anyway on the Monday I semi apologised and blamed drink for my loose tongue, but he also apologised for saying my child looked naughty and said he needed to learn better English!

I've had a few times when I'm grumpy about work and make the odd comment, but I'm usually breezy with the colleague I've sounded off to the next time I see them (if not too much time has passed- it could be the next day or a few days) and am like "Oh I'm so sorry I was in such a horrible mood last time we spoke, I'm so beastly when I'm like that. Gold star for you for putting up with it!"

It's only happened a few times in the years I've been there and usually people say things like "Oh but you listened to me moan about xyz!" Or "We all need someone to sound off to!"

I find confronting my behaviour up to a point helps, so definitely go with a breezy "Whoops if I said stupid shit!" on Monday.

NavyandWhite Sat 12-Nov-16 11:35:04

Maybe look for a new job anyway if you're that unhappy there?

user1471558080 Sat 12-Nov-16 11:47:46

Thanks, your stories have made me feel a bit better! And in terms of my job, I've been vaguely planning to look elsewhere after Xmas, just need to motivate myself!

NavyandWhite Sat 12-Nov-16 11:48:36

Last nights episode might be the push you need grin

ItShouldHaveBeenJingleJess Sat 12-Nov-16 11:54:11

I honestly think that staff parties are notorious for incidents like this! I bet if you Google it, there are tons more awful incidents that will cheer you up - maybe avoid the Christmas do.....or order a J20!

ManaFleet Sat 12-Nov-16 12:30:37

Never never never NEVER get hammered with colleagues. I've made that mistake waaaay too many times.

Totally agree with previous posters. Bring it up yourself quite early on, but breezily:

"Wow, I haven't been that drunk for years! Hope I was entertaining and not a bloody awful drama queen. Tea anyone?"

19lottie82 Sat 12-Nov-16 13:08:09

I thought everyone slagged off their boss and the company with their workmates when they went out drinking?

If it makes you feel any better a couple of Xmas nights out ago I got hammered on an empty stomach then sat next to my boss, told him I had my own business and didn't really need this job as it was "just pocket money to me now". When he started telling the table he was just back from a holiday in Cuba, I said "oh you've been to cuba?" He nodded and I said "who cares? Next!". Then I looked down and my hand was on his knee and my dress had rode up round my waist. blush

I think you'd be hard done by to beat that one! grin

BastardGoDarkly Sat 12-Nov-16 13:26:59

grin lottie

OliviaBensonOnAGoodDay Sat 12-Nov-16 13:34:20

I MEANT to say, people will understand. They'll be too busy waking up today worrying about what they said or did, rather than thinking about you.

You were pissed. Being pissed makes you do and say things you wouldn't normally. Not exactly breaking news! grin

In a few weeks you'll be wondering why you were so worried.

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