I've been the only driver in our relationship for the past 13 years. Never had any issues with him demanding lifts or anything, if I want a drink we get a taxi etc. I enjoy driving so don't mind even long distance journeys.
Dh passed his test 5 months ago and whilst the opportunity isn't always there for him to take the car out he does as much as he can.
However I'm struggling with being a passenger and dh says I stress him out.
The only instances where I've ever made any sort of comment were
(1) he pulled into the fast lane right in front of a lorry and left next to no space between us and them
(2) he sat in a yellow box waiting to turn right and took so long making the move to turn right that the roads to the left and right started driving towards us.
He has also already had to go on a course for turning right through a red light.
I have tried explaining that I get that he is new to it, but I am also new to this. I don't ever comment on his driving outside of the examples listed above, with the caveat each of the above times that my comment is purely down to being in an unsafe situation.
I don't really know how to proceed. One of these instances was this evening and we've even attempted a diplomatic conversation but it hasn't worked.
How do I cut him more slack when I'm a passenger? And how to get him to understand that I felt unsafe those times and surely anybody would have.
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Struggling now that dh is also a driver.
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NapQueen · 11/11/2016 19:23
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