To find attention seekers annoying and tedious?

(11 Posts)
HappiestMrsChicken Fri 11-Nov-16 15:50:11

I have come into contact with several enormous attention seekers in the past, and have managed to distance myself/disengage/avoid.

However a woman that I work with is one too, obviously it's difficult to avoid her as I work for a small firm and there are 12 of us within a very compact office, so I'm stuck with her!

Everything, and I mean EVERYTHING has to revolve around her. She is always telling her life story or talking about her latest drama at the top of her voice and expects us all to be an excited, engaged audience. Nothing is ever simple for her, there is always a story and a drama. This morning after an hour of being at work she decided to go and work from home as she has a cold, and then decided she was 'worried' about making the (5 minute) car journey home with a cold and asked if one of us could call her after 10 minutes to check she was ok, which one of the sheep others did.

If anyone is ever popping to the shop she always wants loads of things that take ages to find, and never has any cash on her so gives people her bank card and asks them to get her money from the cashpoint too. She'll never say 'Oh I'll just have a chocolate bar', it's always about 10 items. It just makes a trip to the shop a pain in the arse for whoever is going!

She makes a huge fuss when she does anything good at work, and talks about it loudly. We all do the same job pretty much.

And worst of all, if ever anyone else has any problems or bad times in their lives, she will then come up later that day with a really obscure problem to trump what they've just said, and to bring attention back to her. One colleague split from her husband recently and was quite upset. Attention seeker then comes back after lunch in floods of tears saying she thinks her bank account is £20 down and someone must have hacked it!

The split in the office is about 50/50 of people who fawn over her and are her minions and people, like me, who don't get drawn into things and are polite and nice to her but don't get involved.

She is driving me fucking crackers though!

Sonders Fri 11-Nov-16 16:05:45

Of course YANBU, but I think you knew that, and just needed to let off some steam.

Go for it!

IamWendy Fri 11-Nov-16 16:13:14

This sounds so very tiring. She hands out her bank card!!! I assume you have to contactless it on a separate purchase?
If be very tempted to start using language like "what a sad\distressing story" and
"<tinkly laugh> this sounds like the plot of a bad soap"

ByeByeLilSebastian Fri 11-Nov-16 16:16:45

I love people like this but only from arms length! I find them facsnitating. Could you work on trying to imagine her as an animal at the zoo perhaps? Narrate her actions in an Attenborough style grin

bluebeck Fri 11-Nov-16 16:22:55

I agree with sebastian I also find people like this very entertaining in a scientific experiment kind of way. I used to work with one, and me and my friend and I used to guess ways she would come up with to get the attention back to her.

Her stories became more and more fantastic and we would just pretend we believed every word and it spurred her on.

Oh, happy days just remembering about it grin

OhtoblazeswithElvira Fri 11-Nov-16 16:25:06

"Really? It all sounds exhausting" and then yawn grin

Chottie Fri 11-Nov-16 16:29:13

I used to work with someone like this.

She could never just arrive at work, there was always a drama on her journey in.

Thankfully we no longer share an office. I feel your pain.

SuperPug Fri 11-Nov-16 16:40:16

People that this can be awful to work with. Why do you think people are willing to facilitate her behaviour? Are they scared of her, worried about her?
Sounds like you're doing the right thing, I would just not entertain any of her behaviour, walk away when she makes an unnecessary fuss and remind her that a snack run is just that, not a shopping list.

softboiledeggs Fri 11-Nov-16 18:49:34

Good rant! No advice but just an agreement that god yes those type of people boil my piss.

My2centsworth Fri 11-Nov-16 18:52:44

I think by definition YANBU.

Iwannabelikecommonpeople Fri 11-Nov-16 18:56:49

never has any cash on her so gives people her bank card and asks them to get her money from the cashpoint too. What???

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