I have name changed but been here a long time.
I have a 'friend' , we met through the kids school and very quickly became very close friends. We just seemed to click together and it was amazing
I am a very loyal person, when I'm your friend there's nothing that comes in between it and if i am giving 100% i expect it back.
My DD has been bullied for a long time, we had an issue where we had made plans for us to distract her from something she had been left out of and i was so grateful she was going to go against the grain and be there for us.
However, she lied to me and my dd ended up missing out, it was very hurtful, and made me see her in a different light.
She had been through a rought time with fertility issues and i was always knocking at the door whenever she needed me, i would have her dd for her and go cook her dinner whenever she couldn't cope with daily life.
Unfortunately for me, she started to be with another crowd of people and i ended up shoved to the side. Was always the last option or whenever she didn't have anyone else i would hear from her.
So i backed off... About 8 months later she got back in touch, was super apologetic about how things went and wanted our friendship back so we started seeing each other more and she was keen to be together as we were before...
( sorry this is long!) a few months in she needs a favour.. Involving me (probably the only person she knew could help) storing her good in my garage so she didn't have to pay storage for a year whilst they saved for a place. So i agreed, then I would say things like lets go to a class together, lets go out, lets do this or that and it was always met with a no or a sorry i can't then yet again i see that she's doing these things with others and leaving me out.
Recently i have been going through a very very traumatic time, things this week are pretty horrific and me and my husband are really really struggling with recent events (a bereavement marred with a deep rooted rift)
Friend.. Did the usual oh so sorry, here if u need anything... Followed by what a horrific time she is having after asking what's wrong i got no where.
So I've now asked for her things to go as we need the space due to current events, but i feel now this is the end of the road for the pathetic friendship which was pretty much me being a mug / go to / available when required.
Aibu? I don't know... Things are really shite and I think I'm finding it worse as I know what i did when she was at rock bottom.
I'm sorry if you're bored to tears... I needed to write something out.
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RougeSeas · 10/11/2016 22:22
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