To not think an 8 year old should see a wedding as important?

(97 Posts)
PigInMuck86 Thu 10-Nov-16 10:21:02

I posted about my little sister and the saga of dress shopping. Well we managed that and she handed out save the date cards - the date is dd1s birthday. Dd1 is delighted, she is excited to be a flower girl and loves the idea of seeing her family on her birthday. She is 8 and birthdays are still a big deal so has mentioned this to lots of people. This has got reported back to little sis who is now very upset that dd1 is talking about her birthday being on the wedding. Apparently i am to explain to her that the wedding is more important and that she needs to not see it as a birthday. I'm not planning on doing anything birthday related at the wedding and nor is dd1 - she is just excited about her birthday and obv at 8 knows the date. AIBU to tell my sister she is the fecking grown up? And if she cares so much why pick that date? She had 3 choices that worked!

LemonBreeland Thu 10-Nov-16 10:25:39

Your sister is being pathetic. She is being a 'me, me me, world look at me only' bride and it is ridiculous. Of course your DD is excited about her birthday, it isn't her wedding.

SnowBallsAreHere Thu 10-Nov-16 10:25:58

Perhaps you should send your sister a small dinosaur grin

At a recent wedding I went to, the groom at the end of his speech, wished a guest a very happy birthday and the waiters brought her a special desert with a candle in it.

Can you get DD a special flashing 'BIRTHDAY GIRL' badge? wink

FleurThomas Thu 10-Nov-16 10:27:28

Ignore her. Your DD is 8 she is free to be excited about her bd.

anniroc Thu 10-Nov-16 10:27:33

Your sister needs to get a grip. A flashing birthday badge is an excellent idea.

Mozfan1 Thu 10-Nov-16 10:29:08

She's being an arse hole

Why pick the date of her nieces birthday then moan when her niece is understandably excited?

How fucking annoying

Underthemoonlight Thu 10-Nov-16 10:30:04

My wedding day was actually DD 1st birthday we had booked the weddings years in a advance and decided to have a baby.

I would never of ignore her birthday she her chair decorated for her and special birthday presents plus a birthday cake. Your sister sounds a bridezilla I would be firmly putting her in her place who's the child in the sceanrio because it isn't your 8 year old! Does she think she will be upstaged

Gizlotsmum Thu 10-Nov-16 10:30:15

Well then DSis shouldn't have booked her wedding for her nieces birthday!

MadameCholetsDirtySecret Thu 10-Nov-16 10:30:28

A flashing badge and a glitzy birthday princess crown grin

Awwlookatmybabyspider Thu 10-Nov-16 10:32:45

YDNBU. She expects an 8 year old to not be excited about or acknowledge her own birthday. Their birthdays are everything to them at that age.
What's her problem. Is she scared an 8 year old might get a bit of attention. .
She surely knows her niece's birth date. It begs the question. Why did she choose that date for her wedding

Awwlookatmybabyspider Thu 10-Nov-16 10:34:27

YY to the flashing badge and crown

Kel1234 Thu 10-Nov-16 10:36:01

I have to agree, why did and choose her nieces birthday to get married? An 8 year old will understandably be excited for their birthday, so I think your sister needs to get over it and accept that technically it's her own fault

MarchEliza2 Thu 10-Nov-16 10:36:06

How horrible your sister sounds!

Of course your DD is excited about her birthday. It will make literally no impact on your sister's big day so she needs to grow up.

GrinchyMcGrincherson Thu 10-Nov-16 10:37:06

If she's so start about it why did she book the wedding on her nieces birthday?

DudeWheresMyVulva Thu 10-Nov-16 10:38:31

Yous sister definitely needs to grow up.

SpuriouserAndSpuriouser Thu 10-Nov-16 10:39:47

Your sister has out-bridezillaed herself. How on earth can one person be so ridiculously entitled?! I think flashing badge, a sparkly princess crown, and then bring out a cake during the reception and get everyone to sing happy birthday.

DudeWheresMyVulva Thu 10-Nov-16 10:42:00

Actually, I think I will repeat the very funny thing someone on MN said once;

' Has your sister been an adult for long? She doesn't seem very good at it'.

KatharinaRosalie Thu 10-Nov-16 10:44:16

No no you got it all wrong. You should kick up a big fuss now about how massively unreasonable your sister is, booking the date of her niece's 8th birthday, from all the available dates. And how your 8 year old is now in tears, her day has been stolen from her, and of course all her future birthdays will be shared with anniversary parties. And so on.

Go on, make a proper drama out of it, have fun grin

Your sister is absolutely bonkers, of course. And yes you must have at least a birthday cake, with candles and singing. Honestly, any normal aunty would insist on that if they had no choice but to have the wedding on their niece's birthday.

carefreeeee Thu 10-Nov-16 10:46:31

It would probably make your daughter's day for her birthday to be mentioned in some way (sing Happy Birthday after the speeches plus a cake or something) and would only add to the wedding not detract from it at all as far as I can see. I think it's a lovely idea!

BathshebaDarkstone Thu 10-Nov-16 10:47:58

Oh it's like my aunt who decided DS1 (26) and DD2 (9) shouldn't have a joint birthday and it should all be about DD2. It was the first time DS1 had had a birthday with me in 9 years and never with his siblings. His and DD2's birthdays are 3 days apart, by the way, and the party was actually the day after his birthday.

It turned out that he was too ill to come, and my aunt was still going on about "next year DD2 will have a birthday party just for herself", even though DD2 doesn't want that.

Sorry to derail, but your sister needs to get over herself.

Mamadothehump Thu 10-Nov-16 10:49:33

YY to the badge! Get a singing one!! Your sister is being pathetic. Your DD on the other hand sounds adorable.

MuseumOfCurry Thu 10-Nov-16 10:49:47

That's possibly the most bridezilla thing I've ever read on MN.

Stopyourhavering Thu 10-Nov-16 10:50:05

My ds was 5 when my nephew got married....they bought him a present which was waiting for him at the reception and which he played with during the boring speeches .all the kids were sitting at a separate table with party bags and kiddy friendly food...it certainly didn't spoil the wedding to have an excited 5 yr old playing with some thunderbirds stuff and everyone had a great time at the ceilidh ( including ds who was awake till 1 in the morning!)
Shame your ds is being such a bridezilla

bumsexatthebingo Thu 10-Nov-16 10:51:32

Tell your sister she needs to STFU about the wedding as it's starting to overshadow dd1's birthday grin
Seriously though - how childish! Not like your dd got to choose her birthdate like your sis got to choose her wedding date and she's 8 so of course she's excited about her birthday. Tell your sis to have a word with herself and buy a massive birthday girl badge to pin on to your dd's flower girl dress

Hellochicken Thu 10-Nov-16 10:52:46

I'd tell your sister she has to be the grown up and not try to crush an 8 yr olds excitement about her birthday!!

Is the wedding a long time away? I'd be wishing it over!

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