Baby shower??

(13 Posts)
tigerlilly0404 Wed 09-Nov-16 17:38:24

So my Best friend had a baby shower a while ago, everyone brought presented for mum and baby myself included, however when baby was born I send a card, I assumed I didn't need to give another present?? Roll on till last week during a conversation she a comment that a number of people didn't give a gift after baby was born, (the ones who came to the baby shower an gave gifts then)
AIBU to think if I gave a present at the shower I didn't need to buy another one when baby was born???

Ahickiefromkinickie Wed 09-Nov-16 17:40:16

YANBU. She's a grabby cah.

mum2Bomg Wed 09-Nov-16 17:41:19

YANBU - people shouldn't expect anything

Nocabbageinmyeye Wed 09-Nov-16 17:43:20

Yanbu. I haven't been to many showers but generally would give another gift at birth too, however, it would be two smaller gifts generally so a little more expensive but not two big gifts, if you get me. That said you give gifts when you are fit to, yanbu to not give another but your friend is cheeky and granny, what did you say when she said it?

PurplePen Wed 09-Nov-16 17:43:28

YANBU.

Baby showers are grabby events to get extra gifts. I've recently been invited to one and the gift list had a £150 item on it with a note that they "understamd it might be a little expensive for one person alone to buy, but maybe a few people could club together and purchase it".

Your friend is a cheeky cow.

londonrach Wed 09-Nov-16 17:43:34

Yanbu but i dont get the baby shower thing as it feels like tempting fate. The only time i bought (beautiful jellycat item) ahead the baby was a still born. I know refuse to buy anything as a gift until the baby is safely born so id go to a baby shower without a gift. Hope thats ok.

MikeUniformMike Wed 09-Nov-16 17:44:32

Of course you should give the baby a present and you'd better start saving for the christening present too. Maybe a wad of dosh for the kid's college fee ISA for the 1st birthday.

expatinscotland Wed 09-Nov-16 17:50:11

YANBU. If you get a gift for your baby at the shower, you don't get another. She's got a cheek on her.

Strawberrybonbons16 Wed 09-Nov-16 18:01:45

YANBU. I never expect anything, it's lovely if you get something but to expect another gift is totally greedy! I didn't have a baby shower but if I did I certainly wouldn't have been able to even write a "wish list" or registry whatever they're called. Some people are just out for what they can get!

ConvincingLiar Wed 09-Nov-16 18:22:58

Cheeky of her to think it, even cheekier to say it. I suppose the only exception might be if she paid for a lavish do (maybe afternoon tea at the ritz) and you gave a packet of wet wipes at the shower, you'd probably then give a babygro/teddy post birth. It'd still be rude to expect a gift, but more understandable.

Whatsername17 Wed 09-Nov-16 18:28:33

I tend to buy new babies a present as a sort of 'pay it forward' as I was gifted so much when I had dd. (For which I was/am really grateful.) If the mum to be has a baby shower I'd take it then. If not, I'd pop it in after the baby was born. For close family and friends I usually pop in with a 'dine in for two' meal once the baby has arrived too. I think it awful to expect gifts and certainly would feel annoyed if people expected a gift at the shower and then again when the baby is born!

Bumplovin Wed 09-Nov-16 18:38:32

My friends bought me a lovely bunch of things at my surprise shower. I asked for nothing. Id be embarrassed if they felt the need to buy any more your friend sounds very greedy and ungrateful

Trifleorbust Wed 09-Nov-16 18:48:48

She has a cheek to comment at all on who is buying her a gift and who isn't! How rude.

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