I have left a few post on mumsnets in the past. Usually about the lighter side of life or if someone is looking for advice about a situation I have also found myself in. I'm level headed. Not a drama lama. But this recent situation has really put my head in a spin and I'm asking for perspective. I have name changed because I would quite like to go back to my old name and talk about about the lovelier stuff in life.
A few nights ago my husband woke me. He was talking in his sleep. He had said very loudly and in a sinister tone "get your knickers off". Next thing he has grabbed me and grappling with my PJ's. He was rough, vocal and I was feeling very shocked. I had to use physical force to get him off me. He had been drinking the evening before but I had not. I knew his initial statement was sleep talking but everything after that I assumed he was at leat half awake and would remember in the morning.
I considered leaving the bed, not because I was scared but because I was very angry. My children were home so there were no spare bedrooms so I stayed put. By this time he had fallen back to sleep anyway and I wasn't in any immediate danger of being woken up again. Just to emphasis though it was a really shocking few moments.
Next morning I was expecting an apology. Nothing. He had no recall of anything.
Now a bit of back ground. My husband has a high sex drive. He loves me and we have a great a sex life but his appetite is much bigger and broader than mine. We have had a few occasions in the past when he's over stepped the mark with me. It's been alarming but the balance is the he is otherwise loving and kind. But when it comes to sex I cannot always go as far as him.
Our first sexual encounter took me by surprise. I wasn't expecting to have sex but he certainly pushed the event to the point i thought i would look stupid saying no / secretly excited it was about to happen.
He looks at a lot of porn sites ( with my knowledge) and I've always felt this has bridged the gap.
On occasions I've had sex when I didn't want to. Other times our sex life blows my mind and I feel like the most most loved woman in the world, flaws and all. He's naturally fit and honestly I'm a bit flabby now which he does not care about one jot.
I have lost my thread a bit but it's been a few days now and I'm still feeling a bit shocked at what happened. It's not strictly a one off either. He's often tried it on at really inappropriate times.
My aibu is do I let it go or try and talk about it with him with much firmer words than I've already tried. He's shrugged the whole event off because he remembers nothing.
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Whathappendexactly · 07/11/2016 21:04
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