Wibu to only ever cook pasta again?

(65 Posts)
AdmiralCLingus Mon 07-Nov-16 18:06:36

Just pasta. No sauce. No cheese. Just plain boiled pasta?

Yet again two dinners are going in the bin because dd and he dad won't eat it. It's not like I've cooked something fancy.... just chicken and rice, with some carrots and sweetcorn. No matter what I bloody cook, someone has to pick fault or they dont like it or part of it.

The only thing that I can guarantee will get a clean plate and no waste is plain flipping pasta. I BLOODY HATE PASTA!!!

so wibu to only ever cook them pasta again??

BabyGanoush Mon 07-Nov-16 18:11:24

Why cook for them at all?

Why is it your job to please them?

44PumpLane Mon 07-Nov-16 18:11:33

YWNBU to not bother cooking for them again if they are so fussy, ok maybe if your DD is too young to cook for herself you'll have to figure something out. Your DH on the other hand can bloody well fend for himself if he's going to be so picky!

YABU to throw out chicken and rice though- it could have been boxed up for lunch tomorrow!

Gileswithachainsaw Mon 07-Nov-16 18:13:53

Er...they eat it or go without. Fuck living off pasta. Cook what you want anything they leave can he used for lunch or tea the next day or frozen.

Let's see how picky there are when there's nothing else to eat.

AdmiralCLingus Mon 07-Nov-16 18:14:37

Dd is only 5 so can't fend for herself! And I'm not married to the inconsiderate prat. I can't trust him to feed either of them. He doesn't even know how to cook fucking pasta 😠

Bertucci Mon 07-Nov-16 18:15:35

I find fussy eaters are generally made that way by enabling parents.

golfbuggy Mon 07-Nov-16 18:16:20

What does DH want to eat (and DD if she is old enough to express a preference?) I menu plan for the week and get everyone to agree that it's ok. People accept that they may have one not liked meal but will have a favourite a different day. If anyone doesn't like it, they make their own.

AdmiralCLingus Mon 07-Nov-16 18:17:03

They're both just so bloody ungrateful!!!

AdmiralCLingus Mon 07-Nov-16 18:17:59

She either eats it or goes hungry. Then constantly whines that she's hungry. I'm not enabling her to be fussy.

NapQueen Mon 07-Nov-16 18:19:53

Dd (nearly 5) likes her pasta plain. Tbh I just put a pile of plain pasta on her plate along with a portion of whatever meat and veg we are having. She likes plain food.

It's basically a deconstructed version of our pasta bake.

iklboo Mon 07-Nov-16 18:19:56

He can't even cook pasta

Don't worry, he'll soon learn.

Maybe your DD is picking up his fussiness / criticism. If you cook for just you & her and eat separately from him she might eat better?

AdmiralCLingus Mon 07-Nov-16 18:24:21

Dya know iklboo I think you're right. She will eat absolutely anything at school according to her teacher... give her the same at home and it ends up in the bin.

PatriciaHolm Mon 07-Nov-16 18:24:37

Stop cooking for him. She's picking up on the fact that this is an acceptable way to treat you.

marvelousdcomics Mon 07-Nov-16 18:26:08

Cook for you and dd. The ungrateful sod can sort himself out. He's an adult.

MaQueen Mon 07-Nov-16 18:26:42

Pah. You need to nip this in the bud. You served chicken and veg...not pig's trotters and sheep eyes FFS.

Stop enabling them.

AdmiralCLingus Mon 07-Nov-16 18:28:32

He's now trying to say that I give him too much food. "Don't forget this is my breakfast" (he works nights) well that's it. He can knob right off. I will just cook for me and dd. He can fester in his bed until he fucks off to work so I don't have to see his stupid face

Bertucci Mon 07-Nov-16 18:35:11

Really, there are few things more unattractive than an adult that is a fussy eater.

I have a BiL that wont eat onions (ffs), mushrooms, spices, most fish unless it's fish and chips hmm and myriad other things. It's like he's scared of food (at 42) and it is so bloody tedious to go out with him or to attempt to cook for him.

MaQueen Mon 07-Nov-16 18:35:20

He sounds like a twunt. He doesn't have to eat all the food on his plate, does he?

If my DH turned up his nose at a perfectly normal meal, he'd probably find himself bleddy wearing it.

But, I cook so rarely (maybe twice a week) that he's just overwhelmingly grateful for anything I cook...

whyohwhy000 Mon 07-Nov-16 18:37:49

Fussy eating can be genetic.

AdmiralCLingus Mon 07-Nov-16 18:41:18

Oh God help me if it's genetic. I'll be destined to a life of beige food.

I must admit I lost my temper and told him if he didn't clear away his own fucking dinner I'd be tipping it in his bed....

Queenbean Mon 07-Nov-16 18:45:36

Really, there are few things more unattractive than an adult who is a fussy eater

Utterly agree. Cook whatever you want, if he doesn't eat it you can have it the next day for lunch. Repeat until he makes his own fucking dinner.

Why isn't he making his own? Are his arms painted on or something?

RortyCrankle Mon 07-Nov-16 18:49:04

YABU - pasta is vile and I just don't understand how people eat so much of it [yuk]

MaQueen Mon 07-Nov-16 18:49:23

grin queen

But, Hell yeah...you're not running a cafe OP. You cook one meal, and if he doesn't eat it he can either go hungry or sort himself out.

To be honest, by now I would have stopped cooking for him full stop. Having a uterus doesn't mean you are genetically predestined to do the cooking y'know.

pleasethankyouthankyouplease Mon 07-Nov-16 18:51:20

Fussy eating is so deflating for the person cooking.
Have two fussy kids. First one was indulged and i created it. Second one likes what likes and that's it but has to get on with it as I indulged less the second time. I don't mind a few things that people detest - that does happen - but the plain pasta is soul destroying.
Partner needs to smile and say thank you o- but doubt you ll be able to fix that nor should you have to. I think he needs to help with cooking - like queenbean's suggestion.

LunaLoveg00d Mon 07-Nov-16 18:51:57

You tell the adult that fussy eating is unappealing in a child, but unacceptable in an adult. There is nothing remotely challenging about chicken and rice with vegetables and refusing to eat it is pathetic.

He has two choices. He eats what you cook, or he cooks for himself. It's no wonder that the child is playing up when it sees one of the adults behaving like this.

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