I'm fully prepared to be told I am being an unreasonable, unfriendly, unkind bitch here.
DH and I have one DD. My mum died before she was born and my dad lives a plane ride away.
PILs have three other DGCs (SIL's DCs). They are lovely children, though they definitely have their moments and as they are a bit older than DD and quite boisterous, if we go to visit PILs and they are around (which is on more or less every occasion) the house gets very chaotic. MIL and SIL busy themselves in the kitchen, refuse help and I'm usually left for a good portion of the visit in the sitting room while the children all play together. DH isn't that helpful as he either looks at his phone or goes off with FIL to play darts or similar. I feel like a bit of a spare part tbh and also have to fend off some of the more boisterous play which DD isn't quite old enough to participate in.
I end up finding the visits really boring and hard work. I think I feel worse about it at the moment as I am far from home and have to family or friends nearby. The only people we have are ILs, but when we go to see them I end up feeling like I'm doing more work than I would be at home. I'm having a major moan here I think. I just wish we could go and DD spend some time with her grandparents, especially MIL as she only has the one grandmother but that just doesn't seem possible.
SIL gets a lot of help from PILs with her DCs, which I understand as she needs it; she has more of them for a start and her DH works funny hours. She also works pt while I'm a sahm, so needs help with childcare for that. PILs also work, so there seems to be not much free time left for DD.
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To occasionally want DC to have some time with GPs without SIL and her DCs?
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KlingybunFistelvase · 07/11/2016 11:57
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