Aibu to give up on home remedies and take dd to doc about constipation - just because I've had enough

[felloveraplastictrain]

I have posted on here about all our silly little medical things - most lately quinsy last week (me). Plus a whole host of other temporary and minor issues that just seem to come one after another. I just feel like I've had enough.

My 12 month old dd is constipated she has been for 3 days. She is going ok but screaming and had a little cut . I have half heartedly tried some home remedies I went to go to the chemist but burst into tears at the thought of it and headed home.

Aibu to just go to the gp and cry at them to fix it without trying my hardest first.

I know it sounds really stupid but I am seriously at the end of my tether with it all. Again we are generally healthy just stupid little things.

[shopaholic999]

So sorry to hear your daughter is struggling.

What home remedies have you used so far?

[Veggiesupremeextracheese]

Get Movical paediatric from the doctor's, my daughter is on it long term and has been since 12 months. We tried anything and everything before this!

[SquawkFish]

YABU.

Surely by day three your daughter is going to be feeling uncomfortable and you would to be doing everything in your power to sort out the problem.

Running to a GP with issues that can easily be sorted at home with a little more parental effort is one of the reasons GP practices are struggling to get patients who do need to be seen appointments.

[felloveraplastictrain]

The stupid thing is normally she has the exact opposite problem.

So far I have just tried fruit and veg (tried prune juice but she wouldn't take it) and extra water. I tried rubbing her tummy and cycling her legs.

I haven't tried anything else.

[Wrinklytights]

Yes go to gp. They can give numbing cream and movicol.

[idontlikealdi]

Syrup of figs always worked for DTs

[Shedoesntgetthatfromme]

I'm sorry but I didn't understand your OP - why couldn't you get her something from the pharmacist?

[OldBootNewBoots]

Did you try Ella's prune purée pouch? Works for us - if she's got a cut though, I would probably take her to the GP to get checked.

[Feilin]

Buy lactulose and give her 10ml in a syringe for a few days. That's what I do with my daughter. No need for doctor . Just buy it at chemist.

[felloveraplastictrain]

No reason apart from being pathetic she doesn't. I set off had a massive panic attack and started crying and ran home. No excuse but that's it.

[idontlikealdi]

Op I just re-read your post - is something else going on? Going to the chemist shouldn't make you burst into tears?

[SquawkFish]

Ok, I'd go to the GP for the panic attacks and ask her to prescribe something for the constipation as an aside.

The panic attacks seem to be the bigger issue here now that you've explained that.

[felloveraplastictrain]

No I am just sick of illness and issues. It's just been one thing after another for the past year. I have been in hospital 4 times. Dd has been in 3 times plus s multitude of more minor things in the middle. I can't stand the chemist anymore I can't stand the doctor really either.

[Shedoesntgetthatfromme]

Well I second the vote for Ella's prunes and lactulose for your DD - but it sounds like you need a sling care of at the moment too! Hope you feel better soon.

[Shedoesntgetthatfromme]

A sling?!? Was supposed to say taking care of"!

[DearTeddyRobinson]

Yup, 10ml Lactulose and possibly even a glycerin suppository to, er, help it on its way out!
And GP for your anxiety, I've been there and it sucks

[BillSykesDog]

This water is amazing:

aqua-amore.com/shop/hepar-still-plastic-bottle-6x1l/

It was recommended to me by a French pharmacist while we were on holiday when DS was about your daughter's age and it does work.

Chin up. I know sometime's it feels like one thing after another but that's having kids for you. Don't let anybody make you feel bad about being concerned. 3 days with no poo and screaming is something which needs attention.

[Believeitornot]

I would be taking long term measures as well. My dd got very constipated because she was having too much bread and bananas and not enough water.

[EggNChipsTw1ce]

Hi, magnesium is IMO the BEST treatment for fissures, helps with the pain and the muscle tension. It's also a great stool softener. Powder can be mixed in drinks or food. Bathing in Epsom salts helps, too. Lactulose is very sweet, so easy to administer! Also cheap. Chocolate Ex-lax is useful but more expensive and l think you can only get it on online at the moment. Keep note of what seems to block her up, wheat and dairy are often culprits but everyone's different, and then avoid. Water always available (maybe in sippy cup where she can reach it if possible but mine used to just water the carpet with it). HTH

[felloveraplastictrain]

I will try all the ideas suggested here. I will try to go back to the chemist tomorrow and hopefully not make a fool of myself again

[Lozzapops]

I would definitely go to the GP. NICE guidelines state that dietary changes alone should not be used as first line treatment for constipation in children. She already has a little tear, she is likely to associate doing a poo with pain, and withhold further, leading to a vicious cycle, and longer-term constipation. I would think she needs a stool softener at the very least. Good luck!

[justilou]

Totally - the home remedies could be causing a tummy ache and if she's been blocked up for a while, it will be all dried out like a cricket ball. Poor little thing probably needs a gentle enema.

[Etak15]

I took ds to gp at a similar age, having a poo always seemed to be a huge ordeal for him - even if it was soft - rarely appeared constipated but used to always cry when he pooed! gp gave lactulose ( which he never had because he's a medicine spitter!!) but also advised that once he started walking it would help and get everything moving a bit better and she was bang on right a few months later no more poo problems!!
Interesting what a pp said about bananas - he used to eat lots of bananas!!

[CheesyWeez]

Bill and Egg: I agree with you two, I love Hepar water, has a nice taste, and it is high in magnesium.
I'd go with the pediatric movicol though! Good luck.

[felloveraplastictrain]

Dh is on his way home from work and I am going to be unreasonable and get him to stay home a bit later than normal tomorrow to deal with it.

I don't feel like I can make rational choices lately and so I have pretty much told dh that he needs to do what he thinks about it.

I never ask him to do anything, he does very little childcare as he works long hours but o am pretty much going to leave him to it tomorrow as I think I am going totally crazy.