to tell some-one else child to....

[wotzsaname]

behave?

For instance:
how many of us are willing to say to some-one elses child.
"dont do that"
or
"pick that rubbish up you've dropped"

At out primary school there were some school kids (y5s) getting their bikes and knocked over about 3 others (one a lovely new one) and laughed and started to cycle off home, looking around to see if anyone was going to say something.

I was about 1 of 5 parents who saw this and no-one else battered an eyelid.

I said "You lot, go back and pick those bikes up, you wouldnt like it if it was your new bike would you?" My dd didnt like me saying it.

Anyway, they did it, they werent rude and then they went off.

[hunkermunker]

I told off a bunch of 14-15yos who were throwing snowballs at moving cars the other day. I'm amazed I didn't get pelted, actually, but I had to do it - it was so dangerous of them!

[lulumama]

i do that , stopped my car once to tell off a group of young boys who were weaving in and out of the road

and various other things!

wouldn;t swear or raise my voice , but if i see that sort of thing, then i would say something politely

[bandstand]

i expect its called being a "grown up"

[Paddlechick666]

i'm forever telling other kids off for general naughty-ness or anti-social behaviour.

especially at playgroups where other kids are pushing or snatching etc. i do it reasonably tho - just like "please don't push/snatch" etc

altho not sure i'd be so keen to tackle adolescents lol.

i'd be happy for someone to reprimand my dd if she were doing something but i'd hope it would be in a reasonable manner too - she's only 15 months LOL

[wotzsaname]

I was in a cafe at lunchtime with my dds and a young teenage couple on the next table were arguing and started swearing, everyone could hear, but I was the only one with young children. The staff didnt hear, anyway we were about to leave and pay so I made a quick move and as I stood up I said "can you wait for me to take my children out before you carry on swearing?"

The bloke looked embarised. I knew the woman wasnt right in the head as she'd asked for a prawn cocktail with a chocolate milkshake!

I expect theyd never been told it wasnt the done thing!

[sunnysideup]

not unreasonable at all. I told a boy he shouldn't have been playing in the road today - he was about 8, kicking a ball around in the road...we don't live on a busy road, but there are cars coming along I would say every 2 mins or so; also cars parked all along both sides of road...so not only safety aspect, but cars getting whacked by this football all the time....I said was his mum happy for him to play in the road, he said yes, and I gave him a suspicious 'really????????????????'.

I think his mum may as well go and tell him to play with the traffic. There's no way i could have my ds out in the ROAD playing. This isn't 1950, cars come down the road!!!!!!!

so I agree basically, I always pipe up...as you say Wotz, sometimes the kids are looking around wondering if they are going to get away with it....well not if I'm around.

[wheresthehamster]

I asked an 8yr old boy at our Christmas Fayre not to heelie about.

I then warned him later that I would ask the headteacher if she would remove him if he continued to endanger other people in such a congested space.

(The parents didn't say a word, in fact had I known better I would have thought they weren't together).

[DimpledThighs]

When I lived in south london I saw a group of 8yr olds making a 3yr old run across the road to make the cars brake.

I told them to stop it because it was very angerous, they ran into the nearest building shouting - you f*g nosey bitch, we are going to get our mum and sister and they are going to kick the fg sht out of you.

I ran like hell with my buggy.

[saadia]

Dimpledthighs

[wotzsaname]

the little sh-ts. A 3 year old shouldnt be out with a group of 8 year olds. The parents probably wouldnt have cared. Poor child.

[Tirnanog]

I believe in having a sense of collective responsibility for each others children up to a point

[Hillary]

When we moved to our new home the 12 year olds asked if my dd could come out to play - she was only 2 - they meant play on the road/path (I think not)!!

[Booboobedoo]

I do it all the time too. It's a hard habit to break when you're a teacher.

Have had similar experiences to Dimpledthighs in Sarf London. It's always shocking to hear kids say things like that.

[edam]

I don't have a problem telling other people's children off (politely) or helping them if they are in trouble. Tried to help a little girl who was bawling at soft play and couldn't find her mummy yesterday. But I seem to be in a minority daan Saaf - just seems normal to me to look after any children who need supervision after growing up in the North.

[edam]

Mind you, I wouldn't try it where I used to live in Saaf London... the teenagers have access to guns and all.

[nikkie]

I am like Booboobedoo , you get used to telling people off working in a school and have a tendancy just to carry on

[Aloha]

My dh told some kids to stop throwing snowballs hard at our car (snowballs with stones it, I would like to add) and they go, 'yeah, wot you gonna do about it? Go on, hit us!'
My dh is 6'4" and Northern. I despair, I really do.

[furcoatandnoknickers]

I completely agree that we should collectivly take care/charge of all our children.
Completely crap example - but like neighbourhood watch. It makes everyone feel more part of the whole picture.

You dont have to be abusive or say it to embarass them, just in a polite way. I have no problem with people telling mine off if its in the same spirit. Although < slightly blushing and smug> I would have probably got there first!!!

Did you see how those grannies and other folk police their estate...think it was in Birmingham. People wouldnt go out after dusk and now they do, because the older folk walk round in a massive group and do ask kids what they're doing...where have they been...not nosily, but just rather interested etc. crime rate down vandalism down...hope I didnt get the wrong end of the stick as it gave me a good feeling..

[Tirnanog]

The break down in communities would benefit from people looking out for each other a bit more,making sure children behave and that old people don't feel frightened or neglected

[harpsichordcarrier]

I am the Constant Intervenor
it's not unreasonable, especially if another child is being bullied or damage being done.
yes, all grown ups have the responsibility to do it

[smeeinit]

im so pleased im not the only one that does this!

i thought i was alone in feeling the need to tell other peoples kiddies off!

if i see something that i think is bad mannered/dangerous/hurtfull etc.. then i say so!
infact i got a torrent of abuse a few weeks ago from a group of lads when i mention that they shouldnt park in the disabled spaces outside halfords. i dont care!!!

[pinkbubble]

Good for you- I wish more people would instead of moaning about it

[CristinaTheAstonishing]

I would also tell off another child, I don't see the problem with this. I know people do things differently etc but as long as I do it sensitively, as I would my own son, then why not?

[HeartOnMyGreensleeve]

I do it. I am a lot less nervous about it than I used to be as well.

I also do it to adults , the other day some stupid tart in a red car deliberately shot through the lights when the green man was showwing and I had just stepped out into the road with my pushchair and my 4yo. I ran after her, stuck my head through her open window and snarled "What are you DOING, you IDIOT". Unfortunately she then went and parked up next to Somerfield, which was where I was going, so I was looking over my shoulder waiting to be punched the whole time I was shopping