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A pseudo ex blocked me on Facebook

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MintyMint · 01/11/2016 04:24

I don't know why.

I hardly talk to him. Whenever we do, it's him who always initiates.

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Motherfuckers · 01/11/2016 04:40

So why are you bothered?

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MintyMint · 01/11/2016 04:44

Just curious why.

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DaisyFranceLynch · 01/11/2016 05:06

Is there a chance he's still more into you than you are to him, and he is trying to move on/ stop himself contacting you/ stop being reminded of your fabulous life, new relationships etc.? I always used to delete exes from FB and my phone.

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PenelopeFlintstone · 01/11/2016 05:08

If it's always him that initiates conversations, perhaps he's still got the hots for you. If you're in a relationship, has he blocked you so he can forget about you and not keep seeing your comments and tags, etc.?

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travellinglighter · 01/11/2016 05:43

What's a pseudo ex?? He's an ex or he's not. Just trying to forget you probably

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InfiniteSheldon · 01/11/2016 05:54

How do you know and why are you bothered and do you mean psycho ex?

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ThatsNoWayToSayGoodbye · 01/11/2016 06:03

How do you know he's 'blocked' rather than just unfriending you?

Why do you care?

If you're curious, then absolutely not a single person here is going to know why. Either think, "oh well..." or get in touch with him some other way and ask.

Does pseudo ex mean someone you had a bit of a thing but it was nothing serious with? Perhaps he's met someone.

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MintyMint · 01/11/2016 06:07

Pseudo ex because we dated for a bit but never agreed to being bf-gf.

Then I had to leave and we continued communicating. It's been eight years since.

He's had a girlfriend for maybe five years now.

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MintyMint · 01/11/2016 06:10

Over the years we developed a weird friendship. He used to tell me stuff he did that I'm sure he wouldn't tell me if he weren't drunk.

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Giselaw · 01/11/2016 06:11

Maybe his current girflriend asked who you were. A woman he briefly dated 8 years ago, who he sometimes talks to from time to time. Why wouldn't he delete and block you from FB? You're not friends!

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PikachuSayBoo · 01/11/2016 06:14

Maybe he should just had a FB cull? I go through my friend list every now and then and reduce numbers.

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AWaspOnAWindowInAHeatwave · 01/11/2016 06:16

Perhaps he's come off FB?

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Maverickismywingman · 01/11/2016 06:30

You kind of dated 8 years ago. he only told you things when he was drunk. And he has a gf of 5 years.

Seems to me he has realised his behaviour is inappropriate.

It's understandable to feel a bit sad about it but I Think it's time to move on. It's not really friendship if he talks to you out of convience when he's drunk.

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MintyMint · 01/11/2016 06:36

No, he talks to me eventhough he's not drunk but what I meant was, he tells me things he wouldn't tell anyone unless he was drunk. Like deep secrets.

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ThatsNoWayToSayGoodbye · 01/11/2016 06:42

Maybe he has proposed to her and he wants to clear out the 'dead wood' from his past.

Maybe he has grown bored of getting drunk and oversharing with you.

Maybe he was only initiating contact periodically because you were always available when he contacted you so it was a good bet if he was at a loose end and fancied someone to go out/get drunk with.

Maybe he has just grown up and realised it's not appropriate.

Maybe he's just lost interest in the situation and has got rid of you and any other pseudo exes he's had on the hook for the past few years.

Maybe he's just had an FB cull of people he doesn't really want in his FB life anymore.

Whatever the reason, it's because he doesn't want (FB at least) contact with you anymore. I think you just have to accept that.

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MintyMint · 01/11/2016 06:43

Yeah maybe. I haven't seen him since I left eight years ago.

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FindoGask · 01/11/2016 06:44

"Over the years we developed a weird friendship. He used to tell me stuff he did that I'm sure he wouldn't tell me if he weren't drunk."

Bingo!

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InfiniteSheldon · 01/11/2016 06:44

You were a casual shag he kept things open in case he fancied another shag he's now serious about his new love and has no need to keep things open with you.

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MintyMint · 01/11/2016 06:49

InfiniteSheldon

That'd be a simple explanation but not possible. We never "shagged" and I have been living in another country since I left eight years ago.

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UnluckyKentucky · 01/11/2016 06:56

Sounds like he was a stroke to your ego every now and then that you were quietly pleased he appeared to still hold special feelings for you even after 8 years. Now you're pissed off that he's obviously decided to move on.

I block all of my exes when I finally realise I need to let go and so I'm not tempted to talk to them. Maybe he did the same.

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 01/11/2016 07:00

I wouldn't even class someone like that as an ex!

I think you sound a bit odder than he does tbh OP, you're reading far too much into it.

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Crispsheets · 01/11/2016 07:03

Why are you even dwelling on this?

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milkingmachine1 · 01/11/2016 07:06

I did this before I got married. De-friended all my casual ex's/ex-boyfriends (who weren't guenuine friends). I moved on, those days were behind me. I also didn't want a load of non friends having a nosey at photos from my wedding which would inevitably end up on facebook.

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MintyMint · 01/11/2016 07:06

I wouldn't even class someone like that as an ex!

Hence, pseudo.

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P1nkP0ppy · 01/11/2016 07:12

I can't help wondering why it's bothering you so much?

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