We gave friends nothing for their wedding....

(88 Posts)
Diel Fri 28-Oct-16 19:07:49

We were looking for a very specific gift for our friends that we couldn't get in stock and wouldn't be practical to carry on the actual day. We explained to the groom that we would drop by with the gift when they were home from Honeymoon at some stage and he said that they had wondered if some gifts had gone missing as a number of people hadn't brought anything (not sure why others didn't have gifts but point is it was certainly noted) Anyway, it's only just came back to me that we never did track down the gift or give anything else in it's place whilst reading another thread on here. I feel terrible!! We were both at the full day of the lovely wedding of good friends and fully intended to follow up with the gift. This was 3 years ago (I know, awful!!) my question is, AIBU to send a gift now with our heartfelt apology? I was thinking I would just be honest about how it happened and hope they enjoy a very late gift.

Somersetlady Fri 28-Oct-16 19:09:17

What a lovely thought. I am sure they would be delighted to get a surprise gift from you!

GreekGod Fri 28-Oct-16 19:14:59

Absolutely. Send the gift now with a heartfelt apology and be honest, you can't go wrong with that. I would also send flowers with the gift. Good luck !

BumWad Fri 28-Oct-16 19:16:44

I think it's really shitty that you 'forgot'.

confused

mysistersimone Fri 28-Oct-16 19:16:51

I would, if they're still your friends they would really appreciate that.

BumWad Fri 28-Oct-16 19:17:34

Wasn't meant to post that soon!!

3 years later? I think it would be really awkward to be honest with you.

Scoose Fri 28-Oct-16 19:18:35

I agree with bumwad

DartmoorDoughnut Fri 28-Oct-16 19:19:12

Ywnbu to gift now, yes not great that you forgot but at least you remembered now

ImperialBlether Fri 28-Oct-16 19:19:34

Three years later?!

VivienneWestwoodsKnickers Fri 28-Oct-16 19:19:36

I'd do it! If it's still an appropriate gift, they'll love the surprise.

Gbean Fri 28-Oct-16 19:19:42

Sorry, agree with bumward

SummerSazz Fri 28-Oct-16 19:20:54

I think the delayed surprise would be fab

Pancakeflipper Fri 28-Oct-16 19:22:03

Ooh do - I would love receiving a gift 3 or 10 yrs later. I'd not be awkward about it at all.

Stuff happens - you meant to get it, just didn't happen for whatever reasons. Wasn't intentional meanieness

WallisFrizz Fri 28-Oct-16 19:22:05

Don't get how you both forgot that you hadn't given them a wedding present in all the many times you must have had contact with them since. Are you sure this isn't a belated attack of conscience?

ChishandFips33 Fri 28-Oct-16 19:22:29

I think it might depend on your current friendship - has it survived without a blip (he seemed like it bothered him at the time...does it now?) or has it drifted?

ThroughThickAndThin01 Fri 28-Oct-16 19:23:11

Do it.

Diel Fri 28-Oct-16 19:24:22

I do feel shitty about it so agree. Without passing the buck I think the reason is that DH was chasing the gift and I am normally the one that organises these things so somewhere in there we messed up. Although they are good friends we don't see then often since we both had kids so could well be awkward but I am a fairly forgiving person and am hoping they will see the new gift with the good wishes it is intended.

Hellochicken Fri 28-Oct-16 19:31:59

It would be a lovely surprise . . . if you are still friends . . . and explain . . . and it is still an appropriate present!
Do it!

ItShouldHaveBeenJess Fri 28-Oct-16 19:32:04

I would LOVE an unexpected gift! If they think it's odd, then more fool them! Send it with a note; I think it's a lovely idea!

OlennasWimple Fri 28-Oct-16 19:35:18

I would send the gift if you can still get it and it would be appropriate.

In fact - because I am a gift giving type of person blush - I might send it along with an anniversary present as well (unless by chance the original gift happens to fit in with the traditional 3rd / 4th anniversary presents)

SpareRoomChaos Fri 28-Oct-16 19:35:50

My mum gave me a card the other week that I was supposed to open on honeymoon... 7 years ago! I put it up in the kitchen anyway grin

I would definitely send the gift now with a wee note. I would be delighted with a surprise gift!

Diel Fri 28-Oct-16 19:36:30

The original gift seems silly to send now but was thinking more of a dinner voucher or such saying sorry we are disorganised plonkers, hope you can laugh at us (forgive us) over a lovely dinner :D

Scoose Fri 28-Oct-16 19:38:37

There's disorganised then there's 3 years later! confused

BasicMadeira Fri 28-Oct-16 19:39:21

A dinner voucher would be lovely and greatly appreciated I think especially if it came with a babysitting voucher too! I would definitely remember who had and had not given a wedding gift and would be delighted to receive one no matter how many years later.

Roseformeplease Fri 28-Oct-16 19:39:58

Why don't you tell them that yo both thought the other had sorted it. That you were chatting and just found out DH hadn't; he found out you hadn't.

And here is the lovely gift...

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