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AIBU?

to only get a ticket for myself

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FlemCandango · 28/10/2016 09:17

I am a regular gig attendee. I usually go with a male friend, we have known each other since secondary school, and moved to London with some other friends in the 90's. Never anything other than friends.

Dh usually stays at home with kids but can sometimes be persuaded to come if it is a band he really wants to see. Anyway it works pretty well. Except I have in the past been let down by my gig friend, enough times for it to be remembered and slightly resented. I had been the one who usually bought the tickets, so if I am given virtually no notice I have been left scrambling for a replacement, last minute, not always possible. I had been taking the financial risk as well.

The friend had some medical issues that meant he was cancelling more often, but I think really he should have been more open about this or bought his own ticket anyway. I have for the last year or so been pretty firm, o buy my own tickets and he gets his own, once or twice he has bought mine, I have repaid him.
This weekend there is a gig, I will get a ticket on the door as I may be unable to get there in time, friend is aware of this. I was tagged in fb last night by my friend to alert me of a gig next year. This is a band we both love. I had had a drink so I replied on fb that I had bought a ticket. Usually I would text friend not have a conversation on a bands post as it seems a bit unnecessary to make private arrangements on public page. Anyway friend replied "only one?" then sideways smiley face.

Argh, why? I have no intention of buying a ticket for friend, he has his own job and steady income, I am sahm, dh doesn't want to buy tickets for unreliable friend, neither do I. But I feel guilty now. Why? I am not being a bad friend am I?

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CauliflowerSqueeze · 28/10/2016 09:18

No he is being ridiculous. Tell him to meet you there if he can "would be great to go together!"

Keep it casual.

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WhatWouldLeslieKnopeDo · 28/10/2016 09:22

YANBU. You are not a bad friend.

So if he cancels at the last minute and you can't find a replacement, you have had to pay for the ticket?! That's awful.

I have a medical condition too and often cancel last minute. But in that situation I would pay you for the ticket.

Just ignore his comment. It sounds like he's the bad friend to be honest.

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elodie2000 · 28/10/2016 09:22

Just message back 'Would love to go with you! Get a ticket ASAP'!!
YANBU

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myownprivateidaho · 28/10/2016 09:23

No that's fine!! Just reply saying yes but would be great if you could join me, you should buy it soon though as they are selling fast.

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YelloDraw · 28/10/2016 09:25

He sounds a bit annoying. Like the others say msg something like "be great if you can come, get a ticket ASAP tho as they're selling fast"

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YelloDraw · 28/10/2016 09:26

Also if he can't come after asking you to get him a ticket, he should still be paying you for the ticket!

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FlemCandango · 28/10/2016 09:35

Thank you - I thought I might be a meany! I will talk to him about it at the weekend when I go to the gig. I won't dignify the fb post with a reply cos it is too juvenile! He is a great and caring bloke just a pain over these petty things sometimes and I get drawn in unwillingly.