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AIBU?

to go hungry just to prove a point

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weediculous · 27/10/2016 21:10

I cook 90% of the time if not more. DH works has long commute so only fair. However at weekends or if he's off he STILL takes it for granted that I'll cook. If challenged he would say he doesn't but it's 9pm and we still haven't eaten basically because I haven't made anything. He said half an hour ago can you be arsed to cook, I said no and he said do you want me to cook. I said yes but he's still watching tv. I am NOT going to cook but I'm hungry and angry (and petty probably).

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ShatnersBassoon · 27/10/2016 21:11

Just get yourself something. No need to go hungry

Soubriquet · 27/10/2016 21:11

Don't do it

Get a take out for yourself only
Or snack

CheddarGorgeous · 27/10/2016 21:12

Do it.

Or pretend you are out of milk and pop out to KFC.

Garyfetacheese · 27/10/2016 21:12

You could make yourself some toast and then leave him to it?

Sparklesilverglitter · 27/10/2016 21:15

If you don't want to eat just to prove a point then do that, although why you would I'm not quite sure I personally wouldn't I'd make myself something quick (toastie, jacket potatoe etc) and get on with my evening

weediculous · 27/10/2016 21:17

Maybe I'll have a bowl of cereal. Likethe kfc iidea though!

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Eatthecake · 27/10/2016 21:18

Seriously? Why would you want to sit there hungry?

Your an adult, Just make yourself a sandwich or something and a hot drink and sit and enjoy it and make him nothing!

OrangeSquashTallGlass · 27/10/2016 21:19

I second cheddar's idea. If you make yourself toast/cereal he might presume that's you sorted. Wait it out but sneak in a kfc.

KellyElly · 27/10/2016 21:20

Why don't you just talk to him about how you feel? Just a thought!

neonrainbow · 27/10/2016 21:20

You could just act like a real grown up and have a discussion with him about how you don't like the assumption that you will cook at weekends as well as during the week. Like an adult.

weediculous · 27/10/2016 21:24

Because he will get defensive and it'll end up in an argument. Anyway am eating cereal so he's just got up to cook. He did just offer to make me pasta but it's a bit late

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CheshireChat · 27/10/2016 21:27

Actually you do need to make it clear that it's not OK and that he should have made something at a more reasonable hour. Maybe agree a meal plan for his days.

weediculous · 27/10/2016 21:32

Maybe you have a point and that there should be a better plan about when he cooks and what

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slenderisthenight · 27/10/2016 21:40

Lol. YABU.

Going hungry is never never never never never worth it.

And any arguments you have afterwards will be twice as irrational.

Fidelia · 27/10/2016 21:48

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CheddarGorgeous · 27/10/2016 21:52

Glad you stuck to your guns. Is he going to take his fair share of cooking from now on?

user1477282676 · 27/10/2016 21:53

He is very wrong and lazy but you shouldn't sit there silently seething but set the plan early in the day. So he can't pull this.

Redesul · 27/10/2016 21:58

yanbu in my opinion, simply because my other half does this. I'm happy to cook when he works, but when he's off, he always finds an excuse not to. Same with the washing up, I somehow end up having to do all the cooking, all the dishes, while he sits around. If it wasn't for the fact we have a child that needs feeding, I would just not bother cooking when he's around. I once snapped and said, "I'm not a fucking maid" and he sheepishly made sandwiches

JellyBelli · 27/10/2016 21:59

YABU. Talk to him and sort it out.

OohMavis · 27/10/2016 22:01

All sounds horribly passive-aggressive. Maybe you need to come to a new agreement whereby you cook for yourselves when you're each hungry? Assuming you don't feed any kids at the same time.

RepentAtLeisure · 27/10/2016 22:02

Just tell him plainly that you don't particularly love cooking and that on weekends and his days off he can take over. But don't go hungry!

OohMavis · 27/10/2016 22:03

And this hasn't really solved anything or taught him a lesson. You're just eating cereal whilst he will now have a nice bowl of pasta. He hasn't lost out at all!

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weediculous · 27/10/2016 22:15

"Nice bowl of pasta" was just pasta pesto! I had defrosted some chicken but clearly he couldn't be arsed to cook that.

Kids are young and eat earlier and I had already cooked that meal (we don't often eat the same thing before you suggest we could have had that).

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weediculous · 27/10/2016 22:18

repent I hate cooking (used to enjoy it but I'm over it now)! Will talk to him tomorrow about weekend cooking

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Antifrank · 27/10/2016 22:18

Here's a thought. Maybe have a grown up conversation with him. Or alternatively be passive aggressive because neither of you are mind readers

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