AIBU to call myself "single" on this application?

(21 Posts)
Nicebucket Thu 27-Oct-16 11:12:30

I have a massive dilemma here

I'm filling in a form for my work visa extension and I've been asked to fill in a field for "relationship status"

Now this seems like a straightforward question, but really, it's not!

I am not, nor have I ever been married. I'm not in a legal civil partnership or a long term live in relationship.

I have a boyfriend, but the relationship is only 5 months old and I wouldn't call it very serious just yet. We do love each other but we are still testing the waters. We don't live together, although he did stay at mine for a couple of months on and off when his flat mate was moving out.
But we each have totally separate addresses, bills, leases and finances.
No joint property, rental agreement, mortgage or bank account.

So we are not legally or financially linked in any way.

I would be inclined to therefore put down "single"

I don't want to elaborate on something that isn't serious and might not even last.

The only problem is that this man works in the same firm as I do, and some people in office know we are seeing each other.

I don't want to come across as someone who is lying on a Home Office application but likewise, I don't want to elaborate on something that I am not yet sure of myself!

What shall I do?

Fanfeck Thu 27-Oct-16 11:13:49

Definitely single

SleepyHare Thu 27-Oct-16 11:14:25

I'm in a long term relationship and I put single, or cohabiting if that's an optional but you're not doing that so I'd say single.

Usually options are single, married, civil partner shipped, widowed. That's it usually isn't it?

RaingodswithZippos Thu 27-Oct-16 11:14:48

Your legal marital status is single so I would put that.

Ninjapie Thu 27-Oct-16 11:14:53

Put down single.

TeaPleaseLouise Thu 27-Oct-16 11:15:00

I would assume single covered your situation but it would be worth checking with your work and whoever is responsible for visas there.

MsMermaid Thu 27-Oct-16 11:16:09

You are single. If/when you start cohabiting then that's the point when you would start declaring relationship status on application forms etc.

LikeDylanInTheMovies Thu 27-Oct-16 11:19:50

What are the options?

Aside from single they are usually:

Married/Civil Partnered
Cohabiting
Widowed
Divorced
Separated

As none of the above apply to you, you are single. As you've surmised the Home Office are interested in whether you are financially or legally linked to someone else, not for the latest gossip on who you are dating at the moment. Save that for Facebook! [Smile]

Nicebucket Thu 27-Oct-16 11:20:05

Thank you for your responses!

The application form is a bit weird in that it doesn't list out options. Just asks for the resolution ship status!

But I remember that on the original form I had filled in when I first came to the UK, I had 4 options- married, divorced, civil partnership or single.

None of these apply to me.

Even when my bf did live with me, it was on and off and he didn't pay any bills rent or put his name on my lease. And now we each have entirely separate addresses and finances.

ReggaeShark Thu 27-Oct-16 11:24:21

You're dating. Which makes you single IMO.

Bumbledumb Thu 27-Oct-16 11:25:48

married, divorced, civil partnership or single. None of these apply to me.

I disagree. Legally you are single. If you break up with your partner tomorrow, you can just walk away. You do not need to apply to a court to end the relationship.

Nicebucket Thu 27-Oct-16 11:28:13

Ok that makes sense.

Thank you all!

I'm confident in my decision to put down "single" now

Nicebucket Thu 27-Oct-16 11:37:40

I'm hesitant to ask HR because they're notorious gossips. And I don't want to turn this into more of a drama at work than it needs to be.

I'm not happy in dating someone from the same firm (even though we are entirely separate departments, even separate buildings!)

The less people at work that know about this, the better.

NerrSnerr Thu 27-Oct-16 11:47:47

You're massively over thinking this- it's just single!

blitheringbuzzards1234 Thu 27-Oct-16 11:49:33

You are definitely single.

GladAllOver Thu 27-Oct-16 12:50:01

You live on your own at present. That makes you single. Your social or sexual life is no one's business but yours.

Ketsby Thu 27-Oct-16 12:52:59

Single. Legal documents don't care if you've 'got a boyfriend'.

If he were to see it and cause a fuss, you'd know he was a tosser. It's like a tosser test!

You sound a bit young and clueless, so yeah, it's just a legal term - you are an unmarried person, you write 'single'. If it only had two possible answers, 'single' or 'married' and you had three kids and a partner of 15 years, you'd still only write 'single', because you're answering the question you're being asked and not elaborating.

myownprivateidaho Thu 27-Oct-16 13:47:42

Agree with others that you are single for the purpose of this form! But just fyi, there will be notes to the form explaining how to fill it in. Google the form name/number and "notes".

FeliciaJollygoodfellow Thu 27-Oct-16 13:49:35

You are overthinking this.

You are legally single. You have no ties to your boyfriend other than you quite like him.

Nicebucket Thu 27-Oct-16 18:13:54

Thanks again all!

To be clear, he recently applied for his citizenship and I found out today that he declared himself as single too.

So I doubt he would be offended by me doing the same grin

Me2017 Thu 27-Oct-16 19:00:42

Sounds like it is single. They ought to define the terms given what different kinds of relationships people can have.
May be there are visa guidance notes available but I doubt they say if you don't live with someone but love them and have sex with them you are counted as having a "partner".

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