I'm very unhappy in my relationship. It's not so much that there's anything wrong, it's just very unfulfilling, stressful, and I know he feels it too. We're definately not connecting, despite long chats, attempts to change, date nights, even trying to spice things up in the bedroom for the past year.
I'm the breadwinner. He's a sahd while running a business, but would make nowhere near enough money to support himself on his own.
I would just about be able to support myself if I move out.
I'm not sure how to say this without it looking absolutely awful, but wibu for me to move out? He would get help financially if he lived in our home with our children. I know hes more than capable of looking after the children competently. But I feel it's taboo and wrong for children to live without their mum. I know my eldest would be more devastated with me living than if their dad left, our youngest would be too young to notice.
And I know I'm being too soft on my dp, he's more than capable of finding a job if he was forced into it (back story, I was forced into being breadwinner, he decided to quit his job to start this business without discussing it with me first so I've struggled financially for a long time and his sahd status just happened naturally as he wouldn't budge on getting his job back and I obviously had to work more) but I still care for him and don't want to see him pushed onto friends sofas because I want to end it.
I don't know, I feel like I'm rambling here but I don't know what to do. This is my first real relationship, even with casual relationships I was never good at ending it.
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user1473509591 · 26/10/2016 20:04
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