I know AIBU but I just want to shake my lovely friend!

(4 Posts)
ilovewelshrarebit123 Wed 26-Oct-16 17:34:54

My lovely friend has just found out her boyfriend has cheated on her again. Yes he's done it several times and is so plausible and eloquent he convinces her it's all in her head.

This time the OW from last time contacted her to say that they're still seeing each other. She sent evidence of graphic text messages that must have been so painful to read, times, dates and details of my friends relationship she would only know if he'd told her.

She also told her about another woman he's been seeing. So he's had three on the go.

She asked me to read them and they were just so embarrassing I was cringing. He's bang to rights in my opinion but I know he'll win her round again.

Several of her girlfriends went round to comfort her, I was one of them. We all said we can give her advice/ opinions but she has to find the strength to tell him to do one.

My DD has called there to play with her kids, (we live very close ) and she said he's there, she's crying and he's doing all the talking. She came home as it was awkward.

He's a manipulative, lying, controlling idiot who will yet again convince her this woman is lying angry

They don't live together (they used to ) and I can just imagine the crap he's spouting to her right now. He's convinced her previously she has a problem and she had to go for counselling!

I know there's little I can do, but I'm itching to tell him he's a dick (I won't as he loves the drama).

MitzyLeFrouf Wed 26-Oct-16 17:44:45

I know how you feel. It's so frustrating but what can you do? Does she have a kid with this guy?

Have you tried talking tough with her?

Lottapianos Wed 26-Oct-16 17:50:56

My friend is married to a wanker ( not a cheater, but still) and I have wanted to shake her many times. I feel your frustration. She is, however, a grown woman and will make her own decision either way. It's so tough but she knows your views, and the views of other friends. Nothing else you can do I reckon sad I really feel for you though

ilovewelshrarebit123 Wed 26-Oct-16 21:30:00

No kids together, but he's the only dad they've known,

He has three of his own, she has two. I've been texting her and she's not answering.

I know she doesn't want to tell me 'they've sorted it out' until the next time he makes her cry, which is a lot.

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