So my friend has asked me for advice but I'm not sure I should be honest with her.
Friend has 3 DCs (9,6 and 5) and she and her husband work full time so for the past 3 years or so they have had a nanny look after the DCs during the week.
However they have never had a nanny for more than 6 months as they keep leaving. The most recent has handed her notice in after 2 months.
Usually when she tells me they have left I just say something vague and change the subject but she has asked me over text today why I think they are leaving.
But I believe the problem is my friend.
For example she tells the nannies not to give the DCs sweets but then if the DCs come home and tell her the nanny wouldn't buy them sweets she will tell the nanny off for not spoiling the DCs. If the nanny does buy the DCs sweets then she tells them off for not following her instruction.
She will ask then to work for an extra half hour or so and then forget to pay them for a few weeks.
She asks the nannies to do too much with the DCs so for example in the 3 hours between getting home from school to friend coming home from work she expects the DCs to have done.
All their homework, music practice for at least half an hour, have eaten something, have had at least an hour of exercise and outdoors time, to have made the DCs clean their room and the living room and kitchen, to have done a creative activity like painting or drawing and that all their school stuff is ready for the next day.
She has also refused to allow time off for illness or hospital appointment and made them take unpaid leave.
And that's just the stuff I know about.
So should I be honest with her and tell her I think it's her fault or should I just lie.
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Should I be honest with friend about her childcare issues
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Waiting4cakes · 25/10/2016 21:20
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