Aibu to consider a rude thing when ppl don't bother to answer

(18 Posts)
btfly2 Mon 24-Oct-16 22:59:01

whatsapp messages within 24 hours?? particularly when your message has been read as soon as it was sent and still no answer to a very specific question...or I'm expecting too much courtesy these days??

Queenbean Mon 24-Oct-16 23:01:51

I thought this was going to be a thread about posters on MN who ask for specific advice and get loads of posts offering thoughtful, specific answers then get no thanks back for them taking the time to reply

Can't get worked up about whatsapp, it's so easy to miss a message. If I need an answer I just message them again

ilovesooty Mon 24-Oct-16 23:06:06

If it's a specific question that needs answering can you not call them?

Marshmallow92 Mon 24-Oct-16 23:08:27

Yeah I hate that! I just think it's a bit rude when you know they've seen it and just haven't replied...don't read the message if you're not gonna answer! Or when you know they've been on whatsapp or social media etc, but can't reply to a text hmm

TheNaze73 Mon 24-Oct-16 23:09:28

People have busy lives. WhatsApp messages are easy to forget. If something is that important like Sooty says, why not ring?

Meloncoley2 Mon 24-Oct-16 23:16:40

Maybe some people need time to think about it?

Pinkgeek Mon 24-Oct-16 23:18:54

I hate social media for this reason. Maybe they had something important to do and as it was just a message, they thought a reply wasn't urgent.
As others say - phone or meet up.

DonkeyOaty Mon 24-Oct-16 23:20:44

Ring them. Not now, obvs, that WOULD be discourteous. In the morning.

Bobafatt Mon 24-Oct-16 23:21:05

It's easy to get distracted though, especially with small children or a busy life. I sometimes start a reply, or think of what I am going to write get distracted, and then forget I haven't actually replied.

Messages that appear in a string if messages are easy to miss.

And sometimes I resent having to reply. WhatsApp exists for our convenience, not the other way round.

PopFizz Mon 24-Oct-16 23:22:52

Depends on the person. I've forgotten to reply once or twice.

Rude though are those that write statuses on something like FB about how crap something is, being all vague, so you message them concerned, they read it, and ignore you! Have deleted a few people like that after the third or fourth time and realising they like the drama and attention seeking

MissMoo22 Mon 24-Oct-16 23:23:02

Sometimes I'll read a whatsapp msg and then the toddler needs me/the phone rings/the dinner is burning and I'll put the phone down thinking I'll respond in a minute. Then promptly forget.

It happens. YABU.

Thornrose Mon 24-Oct-16 23:26:56

Oh god I hate that people can see you've read a whatsapp message. So much pressure to respond immediately.

Queenbean Mon 24-Oct-16 23:29:04

You can just turn off the read notifications if it's stressing you to reply Quickly smile

Queenbean Mon 24-Oct-16 23:30:18

As others say - phone or meet up.

What if they're messaging to arrange meeting up... wink

charlestrenet Mon 24-Oct-16 23:37:03

Then phone. Way quicker than typing, waiting for a reply, typing again, waiting again etc. If you want to have a conversation (and that is almost always the quickest and easiest way to make arrangements) then actually talk.

BackforGood Mon 24-Oct-16 23:37:27

If my phone goes off when I'm in a meeting - I may well glance at it to check it's not something like the dc's school (it would just vibrate for everything if I'm in a meeting), but not be able to reply to it, there and then, and then, in all likelihood I'd forget I'd had it later on.
Could be that
or
Maybe person has to check with calendar, or someone else who is affected by their diary movements and hasn't had that chance yet?
or
Maybe they didn't realise it was urgent / there was a time limit and think they'll chat with you when they see you?

So, not necessarily rude, no.

VenusRising Tue 25-Oct-16 00:20:45

Maybe they're just not interested.

I love social media as it gives me time to think about whether I want to meet up etc. I never reply immediately, unless I've already agreed to meet and we are discussing where and when etc etc. And even then if they're being too needy and trying to organise me, I go dark.

Really hate people ringing me and expecting that I can chat/ or want to.
I'm surprised anyone actually messages me at all considering how misanthropic I've become! I blame crotchet blogs, and winter.

Much prefer staying in where it's warm making granny square woolly hugs to the hassle of meeting up somewhere outside, or answering pinging texts and WhatsApp demands...... sheesh.

Maybe in springtime, I'll get around to answering, maybe not! grin

MidniteScribbler Tue 25-Oct-16 00:25:05

I hate text messaging, and don't have WhatsApp. Even email annoys the heck out of me. If you want to talk to me, then call me.

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