Only slightly lighthearted

[Msqueen33]

So 2/3 of our kids have autism. I'm a sahp but not through choice. Dh takes part in a sport and has done for years. I asked him last year could he consider not running his own team and maybe be part of another so he's not so committed as he works fairly long hours and some days I really do need him home. I also asked if we could discuss him signing up to additional competitions. Surprise surprise we didn't discuss he just signed himself up for it. I'm not against him doing things for himself it's more if I've had a rough day with the kids it would be nice if he's not tied to going to his sport. Without even asking if I'm doing anything he's playing his sport three nights this week!!!!

Also, I told him all about the spooky chest in the loft post on here and ten minutes later update him and he's not even registered I've told him. I know it's crap but I'd quite like him to pretend to be interest but like I am with his crappy sport and his job.

Lastly as he has a taken a few days al i would quite like us to go away for a change of scene and he's not
Remotely interested. I've found somewhere but he's making every excuse under the sun. Apparently people up north don't do anything and what would we do with the kids.

I feel I'm ignored a lot of the time. Or my thoughts are minimised. I'm low maintence and a fairly tough cookie. My kids have serious issues and are hard work. He struggles (though he's disagree) just over a weekend.

So aibu to have left the bastard asleep on the sofa?! 😀

[YouTheCat]

You go and spread out in bed. Leave him where he is.

Ask him (lightheartedly, of course) how having the kids every other weekend would impact on his sport.

[ErrolTheDragon]

YANBU. He sounds very self centred and inconsiderate (to put it mildly)

WTF does he mean 'people up north don't do anything'?

[ArmySal]

Apparently people up north don't do anything and what would we do with the kids.

[Dontpanicpyke]

What a selfish arse. You need to get a hobby of your own and sign up on the nights he's home. Leave him to cope. Teach him a lesson.

[ImissGrannyW]

Agree with PPs, you need something to occupy your time outside the house so he can do his share.

[Msqueen33]

He seems to think there won't be anything for the kids to do. You know there's forbidden corner, flamingoland. People it seems have kids up north. I get the feeling he can't be bothered. I lived up north for five years and would love to take the kids.

I agree I definitely need a hobby. I use to play netball but with work he'd never be home on time.

I left asleep on the sofa and was frosty in protest this morning. He knows I like to go to different places and I figure if I can accommodate his sport and going out he can accommodate a few days in fucking Yorkshire.

[AyeAmarok]

YANBU OP.

He sounds very selfish.

[Penfold007]

He's opted out of parenting and is selfish. Could you get up on one of the days he is off and head out of the door for the day and leave the children with him?