To tell my friend her friends are bitches

[Monkeyfan]

Hi,

My friend Lets say mary has recently found out she is pregnant after 3.5 years of failed IVF and being told she will never conceieve naturally. It's basically a miracle pregnancy.

Mary has two friends - sharon and beryl. They have both been there for mary throught out fertility struggles and are well aware of what has been going on. Mary told Sharon she wont ever be able to have kids, two weeks later Sharon tells mary that she is pregnant. Mary is of course happy and excited for Sharon. Unfortunately a few weeks later Sharon miscarries. mary is very supportive and checks how sharon is feeling every day, generally being a good friend. Three weeks after this Mary discovers the miracle pregnancy.

Mary doesnt want to tell sharon right away but all of the friends are booked to go away for a weekend. It will be obvious Mary isnt drinking on this weekend so she feels she has to tell Sharon before they go. Mary arranges to see Sharon private but when she arrives beryl is there so mary has to tell them both at the same time. Both friends say congratulations but then quickly change the subject and the pregnancy isnt discussed again.

Sharon and beryl do not contact mary again. They all go on the weekend away and Sharon and beryl ignore mary, turn their back on her and generally cause a bad atmosphere on the night out. The other people on the night out question why Sharon and beryl are acting like that towards mary. At this point Mary has no idea why.

Mary texts Sharon and Beryl after the night out asking why. They reply that Mary is insensitive and rubbing it in that she is pregnant when Sharon miscarried a few weeks ago.

Mary is a very nice person and thinks she is in the wrong - i think that Mary has been as sensitive as she could have been and two of her oldest friends are behaving like teenage girls trying to freeze her out because she has the audacity to be pregnant.

AIBU?

[ImperialBlether]

Mary told Sharon she wont ever be able to have kids, two weeks later Sharon tells mary that she is pregnant. Mary is of course happy and excited for Sharon.

If they want to nit pick about who says what when, then Sharon should perhaps look at herself for telling Mary within two weeks that she's pregnant. And Sharon should also remember how Mary was with her when she was told the news.

And Beryl should try to keep the group together, not divide and conquer!

[WoopWoop200]

Pair of wankers!!
I understand how this news could upset Sharon but that is not Marys fault. Mary handled it well.
I don't even understand why Beryl is involved in the bitch fest.
Tell them the roles of Mean Girls have been filled, unless they want to be another failed sequel!!

[Monkeyfan]

Thank you.

I agree with you two - Mary did the best she could in a shitty situation. i just cant believe two adult women would actually go on a night out and physically turn their back on someone and ignore them. I really want Mary to realise these two arent being very nice people right now.