I feel like I'm in the middle of a three way war between DH, DM and the NHS! I have some health issues, and some complications of recent surgery. I had an appointment this morning and mentioned a worrying symptom. The nurse said it was nothing to do with her department, I needed to chase another department or speak to my GP. In the process of looking for a referral letter she came across a letter written a couple of weeks ago by a hospital doctor suggesting I should have a heart scan due to some evidence of a problem there. I was never told about this and there is no referral on the system. I have a few different things going on health wise at the moment and feel no one has looked at the whole picture. I am seeing my GP this afternoon. ( Note- this is not an NHS bashing post- I am in awe of the service and have previously had excellent experiences, I just seem to have slipped between various services at the moment) I have private healthcare through DH's work. I don't know if they will cover the current issues as they are a complication of a procedure they wouldn't cover as it was due to genetics. I would like to pursue the option of private referral. I spoke to DM on the phone and told her all this- her opinion is strongly- 'see someone privately, it doesn't matter what it costs'. She then said similar on the family whatsapp group when another relative asked how I was. DH responded sharply with 'there is no need to add fuel to the fire' - he seems to think DM just wants to throw money at the problem (as has been known previously) and it will just confuse the issue. DH and DM have clashed before, he is upfront and DM hates confrontation and gets upset if anyone says anything that she could interpret as rude. I feel like piggy in the middle. I don't know the best approach with regards to my health problem and I feel like the family arguing about it is only causing further stress. AIBU??
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rememberpurpleronnie · 24/10/2016 13:39
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