Been friends with this girl since we were very small, grew up in same street, never really had the same things in common but always been friends. Had our ups and downs when we were younger but that's years ago.
Anyway she had a child very young and I was her godmother, we have both gone on to have more dcs and be involved in each other's lives, weddings etc.
She has moved out of the area a few times and I always made the effort to go and see her, she doesn't drive, other friends didn't.
She moved nearer and I've been there for her in times such as when she had an affair and friends turned against her and told her husband.
Recently she has got a new group of friends, not my cup of tea but I've made an effort with them. I see it that she is my friend not them, if she invites me round there will be several of these other friends who are ok but I just don't have anything in common and certainly don't want to talk about my life or things important to me with them there. If I tried to make arrangements to do something the two of us or invite her to mine then she would make an excuse at the last minute.
We started to drift apart, she forgot both of my ds's birthdays one got his card 4 months late!
The last two times we went out socially (with her friends) she got drunk and started having a go at me for not being a good enough friend and not being there for her. Her new friends were cool with me and one of them made a cryptic comment on fb about true friends clearly aimed at me.
The next day I told her that I don't want to fall out with her but I don't want to be involved with these new friends or do anything with her when she is drinking (she is a terrible drunk and I usually bear the brunt of it if her dh isn't there). I told her I'm more than happy to meet up with her or both families to see each other and do things. This has never happened.
Since this we haven't seen each other in over a year except to post xmas or birthday cards or text to say happy birthday.
It was her ds 21st birthday recently (my goddaughter) and I noticed on Facebook she had a party, all her new friends invited and comments made about true friends not being the people you have known the longest.
Should I say anything, I did say I didn't want to be involved with these friends, is this my own fault, should I just accept the friendship is over and stop posting cards etc?
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wrigglytoes · 24/10/2016 10:29
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