To think this is the height of bad manners

(41 Posts)
Nicpem1982 Sun 23-Oct-16 19:10:11

My dd has had her first dance showcase performance this weekend and Bil and sil insisted they wanted to come and watch, which was lovely of them but we explained They don't have to, as dd is 2 and on stage for approx 7 mins from a 2.5 hr showcase and we appreciate it's a big ask as the theatre was charging 12.00 a ticket and they needed 3 (bil sil their dd).

They insisted and bought tickets from the theatre, sil turned up moaning that she had other things to do today and sat all the way through the first half on her bloody mobile phone texting and browsing face book even when the usher told her to put the phone away she just turned the screen brightness down, and she didn't even clap for these children at the end, they've been working their asses off for months (not necessarily my dd) given up weekends for rehearsals and some learned 7 dances and had 7 costume changes tonight and they've performed twice this weekend.

She didn't even clap at the curtain call and sniggered that one of the little ones lost the timing in the routine and had to watch the others to find where she was in the routine, she's 8 and is deaf.

Aibu to be annoyed that she was so damn rude and wonder why the hell she insisted on coming?

To be clear we're not close and I found it off they insisted they were coming.

Gileswithachainsaw Sun 23-Oct-16 19:13:07

That is extremely rude.

She sounds vile.

Every child who had the courage to get up there deserves a bloody good round of applause.

If she wants perfection pay to see a West end show.

Nicpem1982 Sun 23-Oct-16 19:17:47

They were from ages 16 month so -19

Nicpem1982 Sun 23-Oct-16 19:18:25

16 months to 19 years that should say

Stevefromstevenage Sun 23-Oct-16 19:19:54

Your SIL came to her 2 year old niece by marriages recital and still you only think badly of her.

Gileswithachainsaw Sun 23-Oct-16 19:20:45

Blimey that's young.

It's an achievement in itself to get kids that's young to do anything.

Fwiw her behaviour reflects on her far more than it does the children who made mistakes.

SpuriouserAndSpuriouser Sun 23-Oct-16 19:21:13

Yep, that is extremely rude, she sounds as though she is lacking in empathy.

NavyandWhite Sun 23-Oct-16 19:22:23

Yeah she sounds rude. Would have been better to say to you that she couldn't make it.

Nicpem1982 Sun 23-Oct-16 19:23:18

Steve- if you read the op I think it was lovely that they came to watch, the bit I've taken exception to is the blatant rudeness of moaning that she has other places to be, sitting on a lit up mobile in a dark auditorium to the point where an usher told her to stop and not applauding children that had worked hard to put on a damn good performance.....do u think the fact that she turned up is an excuse to behave like this?

pipsqueak25 Sun 23-Oct-16 19:23:36

tbh honest school stuff can be a bit boring apart from your own dc's input, but that is not an excuse for bad manners she was out of order and i bet others weren't impressed either, why the heck did she go ??

pipsqueak25 Sun 23-Oct-16 19:25:07

meant to say well done to the youngsters though, it's not easy getting on stage and performing at such young ages.

Crunchymum Sun 23-Oct-16 19:25:47

I'm massively missing the point but did you say there are 16mo children - In performances? Doesn't sound right (or doesn't sit right?) with me.

Why are parents signing kids up so young?

And yes SIL was very rude!!!

Nicpem1982 Sun 23-Oct-16 19:26:43

Giles - it is young but all of the little ones loved it I chaperoned on Saturday night and believe me it's all driven by the children. My dds group was like hearding sheep for the senior dancers on stage with them but the audience melted - they were there for the cute factor.

Pipsqueek- it can be boring I get that hence the whole she's in 7 mins out of 2.5 hours you don't need to come but they insisted

Gileswithachainsaw Sun 23-Oct-16 19:28:46

Oh I know there would be no way of getting a 16 month old to do anything they didn't want to without knowing about it grin

They had a choice no one held a gun to her head. Unacceptable to be sat playing with a phone and ruining it fir others.

Nicpem1982 Sun 23-Oct-16 19:29:07

Crunchy - yes her performing arts school takes from 16 months and every child has the opportunity to join in the showcase regardless of their ability. The children have short routines and dance with older children as on stage chaperones and if it gets to show day and they don't want to go on they don't

KoalaDownUnder Sun 23-Oct-16 19:29:36

Yeah, she's a rude git.

Can't stand people using mobiles / not bothering to clap at the theatre.

ArchibaldsDaddy Sun 23-Oct-16 19:32:25

You are quite right that this sort of behaviour is awful...what an utterly self-absorbed ingrate!

Yes,by all means, behavioural standards are slipping all the time, but this is beyond the pale.

Mrskeats Sun 23-Oct-16 19:36:00

Horrible behaviour. Why insist on coming in the first place if you weren't interested/busy etc?
I can see why you aren't close this sort of stuff makes me furious. Who the hell laughs at a child losing their place in a routine? Vile

Nicpem1982 Sun 23-Oct-16 19:39:09

Mrs Keats - I have no clue why she came I'd have preferred her not to tbh she clearly wasn't interested in watching the showcase so why take the seat from some one else it's sell out shows all weekend

Arfarfanarf Sun 23-Oct-16 19:39:40

She clearly did not want to be there. Do you think it was bil rather than her that wanted to go?

Nicpem1982 Sun 23-Oct-16 19:40:32

She's in a brass band and wanted to see how other people perform apparently

Nicpem1982 Sun 23-Oct-16 19:41:52

That's what we were told when the whole are u sure u want to pay 36.00 for 7 mins of your niece flouncing about stage? Conversations happened

timelytess Sun 23-Oct-16 19:44:17

Don't tell her next time.

Nicpem1982 Sun 23-Oct-16 19:50:13

Timely- it's impossible not to tell her I have an incredible relationship with my fil/mil and they will attend any performance dd they're very hands on they are with both dds so bil/sil will find out

PlumsGalore Sun 23-Oct-16 19:51:28

Yes, don't tell her next time. Clearly she thought she would make some important connections for her brass band and didn't and was bitter LOL.

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