Mine and DH's parents both live 3-4 hours drive away. When they visit us they always stay for 2-3 nights over a weekend - often arriving Thursday/Friday and not leaving until Monday. DH and I both work full time in busy jobs so weekends are very precious and our only downtime to recover from the week and get ready to do it all over again. Our house is small (2 bed, 1 bath) so it's pretty intense having two extra people to stay. They are pretty pleasant people but DH and I are expected to cater for them, make cups of tea, entertain them and spend the whole weekend with them. It's not like they'd ever go out and amuse themselves for a few hours. I find the whole process extremely stressful and I probably have to endure it around 6-8 times per year (3-4 times per each family). I find I am not as pleasant as I could be and often feel I have let myself down by being stroppy and impatient with them but I really do not enjoy having them here. There is never enough space and it's exhausting looking after them all weekend when I have at work all week and not getting any downtime before the next onslaught. We also go to visit them back home 4-6 times per year (2-3 times per family) so it's not that we're not prepared to make the effort. They like to come here because they like doing things in London (despite moaning about how small our house is and how busy / expensive everything is). I am not sure how to handle this going forward and in the future as ideally I would like to not have to host them here. There is no possibility of us getting a bigger house any time soon but we want to try for a baby next year so then space will be even tighter and they will probably want to stay even more often. AIBU? Any thoughts / suggestions from those who have faced similar situations would be gratefully received.
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reluctantlondoner · 23/10/2016 17:52
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